A mum who is worried

Guest_75682316 — Sun, 23 Feb 2025 01:16:46 GMT

Hi I’m a mum of 4 I’m 35 yrs old and new to the area

but only one lives with me she recently got invited to a play date she 10 yrs old and I met the mum for the first time she was nice but I felt so socially awkward and didn’t know what to say or do my daughter was happily playing with her friend I said i had to leave and do some errands left and I felt bad maybe I should of stayed but I felt so awkward and not so great and felt I needed to get out is that a bad thing to leave I’m so split in two I haven’t socialise in 3 years

Re: A mum who is worried

white knight — Sun, 23 Feb 2025 03:23:48 GMT

Hi, welcome

Sometimes easy remedies are hard to find and its great you wrote in to seek some advice.

There is a number of ways to break the ice- remember in awkward situations they other person might well be as nervous as you are.

Some ideas-

Take along a flask of tea or coffee even if you dont use it. Then holding the flask in the early stages "I've brought along some tea would you like some"?
Ask questions about their child. eg "She gets on well with Wendy doesnt she, is Wendy your only child"? People LOVE talking about their own children. Other topics to ask about are- how long they have lived there, where did they grow up, do they have hobbies/sports, etc
Comment on their garden/house/clothing they wear. All these positive comment print in their mind that you are a nice person.
You can gamble and be up front eg "I have been very isolated in recent years so I dont have many friends- just if you feel a little awkward around me". That sometimes works but has risks with strangers.

I hope that helps. The important thing to remember is- you're not alone in having these issues.

TonyWK

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