https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/married-and-in-love-with-first-love-again/m-p/599642#M53933 <P>Hi, I'm married with 2 kids. Marriage is not great or worst, its average. Financially build up together, but love life is not great. We don't have much emotional connection, all materialistic.&nbsp;</P><P>After 20 years I met my first love again, he is married with 1 child. We both still love each other's and stuck what to do.&nbsp;We both love our kids and have guilty feeling about them.&nbsp;</P><P>We live in two different countries, it's a big process to get together as well.</P><P>Don't know what to do, Can I get advises please?</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Fri, 13 Sep 2024 04:55:01 GMT Choco-Girl 2024-09-13T04:55:01Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/married-and-in-love-with-first-love-again/m-p/599642#M53933 <P>Hi, I'm married with 2 kids. Marriage is not great or worst, its average. Financially build up together, but love life is not great. We don't have much emotional connection, all materialistic.&nbsp;</P><P>After 20 years I met my first love again, he is married with 1 child. We both still love each other's and stuck what to do.&nbsp;We both love our kids and have guilty feeling about them.&nbsp;</P><P>We live in two different countries, it's a big process to get together as well.</P><P>Don't know what to do, Can I get advises please?</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Fri, 13 Sep 2024 04:55:01 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/married-and-in-love-with-first-love-again/m-p/599642#M53933 Choco-Girl 2024-09-13T04:55:01Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/married-and-in-love-with-first-love-again/m-p/599643#M53934 <P>Nobody can advise you what to do</P><P>only you can do that.</P><P>But I can remind you that maybe you just feel good seeing this person again because it takes the focus away of your&nbsp;</P><UL><LI>" average marriage " &nbsp;and perhaps this is not love but excitement in seeing this person again.. &nbsp;Do you remember why you split up to begin with and are those issues now fixed. &nbsp;Have you given any thoughts recently on how you can bring back some life to your marriage. &nbsp; Its a traumatic affair getting divorced and the children involved and to top it off the person lives abroad. &nbsp; Maybe staying with your partner and discussing with them how you can bring excitement back into your marriage. &nbsp; Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side because we stopped looking at our own patch of grass. &nbsp;But very rarely the grass is greener on the other side it only appears that way.</LI></UL> Fri, 13 Sep 2024 05:24:09 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/married-and-in-love-with-first-love-again/m-p/599643#M53934 Scared 2024-09-13T05:24:09Z