Wife micro-cheating with friend, so confused.

CrimsonBlue — Fri, 13 Sep 2024 01:27:22 GMT

I'm in a Lesbian relationship and married to my wife for 6 years and together for about 20years. We have to beautiful girls, and I love my wife so very much but for the past year she has been texting another woman from her childhood. She has recently lost her father and in that time, she reconnected with this friend, but the connection was a lot stronger than I thought. My wife told her that she was falling in love with her. The other woman hasn't really told my wife how she feels about her, but they have been flirting in the texts that they send. I knew something was going on as my wife was distant and being secretive. I found a message that she sent this woman saying that she had fallen in love with he,r so I asked her about it and eventually she confessed to me but has since told me that she was in a bad place from the loss of her dad and wasn't thinking properly. Which I can understand but her feelings were real. She has continued to text and see this woman even after I have told her that I would rather she not have anything to do with her. I have asked her if she still has feelings for this woman and she said no. But then I asked her would she tell me if she did have feelings for her and she also said no. So, I struggle with trusting her now. She will be going to see this friend soon as she is a friend of her family. I am sure that the other woman has developed feelings for my wife, and I know my wife still have feelings for her too. My head is spinning around and sometimes I don't know what to do. I love her so much and can't imagine my life without her, but this is messing with my head and heart. What should I do???

Re: Wife micro-cheating with friend, so confused.

Scared — Fri, 13 Sep 2024 03:55:00 GMT

That is so unfair on you .

Not only on you but the girls too because the girls need their parents to be in good mental health whether the girls understand mental health or not.

Your partner is engaging in selfish and inappropriate behaviour that is having a direct effect on the whole family.

I think its important to call it out for what it is and it is a betrayal of trust, micro or not.

We cant stop others doing what they want to so we rely so heavily on trust that their end of our bargain ( marriage ) will be kept. I personally would document all of this behaviour in secret in case needed at a later date to which I hope is never needed. I dont accept that losing a parent warrants you going thru this but you sound like you have already made concessions for your partners loss of her father. I would try to find support with family or friends or even professional help that supports you in this difficult time. Being able to share this issue will help you with strength to get thru this and talking does do some good. You have every right to be upset by this and I personally would not allow this to be played down as jealousy on your behalf. So I hope you find some peace confiding in friends who you can share this with and I wishing your partner comes to her senses and stops hurting you

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