https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/starting-over/m-p/597258#M53700 <P>So my mental health journey has hit a massive roadblock in the past 6 months, in short; my mother is now in an aged care dementia ward and will never get well, I lost my job and my wife of 23 years has split with me (although we are sharing the house with our kids amicably for now), and I recently had a breakdown where I checked myself into a private hospital for fear of suicidal tendencies.</P><P>I am at a loss with what to do. I &nbsp;struggling to find work that will be both enjoyable, financially supportive and allow me to continue to be the best dad I can be.&nbsp;<BR />I am scared that I will fall into darkness again very soon.&nbsp;</P> Fri, 09 Aug 2024 10:10:26 GMT AndyL 2024-08-09T10:10:26Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/starting-over/m-p/597258#M53700 <P>So my mental health journey has hit a massive roadblock in the past 6 months, in short; my mother is now in an aged care dementia ward and will never get well, I lost my job and my wife of 23 years has split with me (although we are sharing the house with our kids amicably for now), and I recently had a breakdown where I checked myself into a private hospital for fear of suicidal tendencies.</P><P>I am at a loss with what to do. I &nbsp;struggling to find work that will be both enjoyable, financially supportive and allow me to continue to be the best dad I can be.&nbsp;<BR />I am scared that I will fall into darkness again very soon.&nbsp;</P> Fri, 09 Aug 2024 10:10:26 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/starting-over/m-p/597258#M53700 AndyL 2024-08-09T10:10:26Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/starting-over/m-p/597289#M53711 <P>Hi AndyL,</P><P>Welcome back, I am sorry it is not under better circumstances, but such is the nature of these forums.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You have been dealing with a lot of challenges all at the same time, even the strongest of us buckle under those sorts of pressures, I am so sorry you are feeling so low.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Did your time in hospital help with the ideation? Or is it still lingering? I have been there and understand how hard it is to get out of that mindset. Was your breakdown connected with any one thing? or all of the challenges put together? I have been there also, it's like you just can't take any more, one last straw that broke the camels back so to speak.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>How are you coping at home, living under the same roof as someone you are no longer in partnership is really uncomfortable, I have been there also. It seems we have had some similar challenges in this lifetime.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Are you talking with anyone? A friend, family member, counsellor?</P><P>What you are dealing with is somewhat easier if you know you are supported by someone you trust.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Please feel free to continue this conversation if you are comfortable doing so. I would like to offer some suggestions and support, just need to know what you have already done so far.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Take care,</P><P>indigo</P> Sat, 10 Aug 2024 04:04:47 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/starting-over/m-p/597289#M53711 indigo22 2024-08-10T04:04:47Z