https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/marraige-breakdown-after-30-years-together/m-p/597025#M53672 <P>Hi,</P><P>Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, separating after so long together must feel very difficult to come to terms with.&nbsp;Have you reached out to talk to anyone? Friends, family, counselling?</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I think you need to give yourself a bit of time to adjust then perhaps find things to do that help distract your thoughts for a while. Perhaps something that you have always wanted to learn but didn't have time for. Call a friend or friends and arrange a get together for lunch or dinner in an interesting setting. Spending time in nature will also be quite healing for you at this time. Perhaps a visit and walk through a botanical garden, a zoo, or just sitting by a lake and feeding the birds. Even spending time in your garden would be a good start.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>We will be here to support you, you are not alone.</P><P>Take care,</P><P>indigo</P> Tue, 06 Aug 2024 08:03:37 GMT indigo22 2024-08-06T08:03:37Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/marraige-breakdown-after-30-years-together/m-p/596923#M53656 <P>Hi,</P><P>I recently separated from my husband, 30 years together, 2 children, high school sweet hearts, I am heart broken.</P><P>I do not even know where to start my healing process, I am sad, I am lonely.</P> Mon, 05 Aug 2024 02:37:15 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/marraige-breakdown-after-30-years-together/m-p/596923#M53656 Scorp_77 2024-08-05T02:37:15Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/marraige-breakdown-after-30-years-together/m-p/597025#M53672 <P>Hi,</P><P>Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, separating after so long together must feel very difficult to come to terms with.&nbsp;Have you reached out to talk to anyone? Friends, family, counselling?</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I think you need to give yourself a bit of time to adjust then perhaps find things to do that help distract your thoughts for a while. Perhaps something that you have always wanted to learn but didn't have time for. Call a friend or friends and arrange a get together for lunch or dinner in an interesting setting. Spending time in nature will also be quite healing for you at this time. Perhaps a visit and walk through a botanical garden, a zoo, or just sitting by a lake and feeding the birds. Even spending time in your garden would be a good start.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>We will be here to support you, you are not alone.</P><P>Take care,</P><P>indigo</P> Tue, 06 Aug 2024 08:03:37 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/marraige-breakdown-after-30-years-together/m-p/597025#M53672 indigo22 2024-08-06T08:03:37Z