Feeling guilty

Rosie-65 — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 11:52:35 GMT

I feel bad because I love my daughter but I want her out of my house! She came to stay for approx six months but 2 years later is still here and doesn't do much to help me and I'm starting to feel dragged down emotionally and financially - any suggestions?

Re: Feeling guilty

Croix — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 13:41:27 GMT

Dear Rosie-65~

Welcome here to to Forum. A home is a very special place and while for some they are happy to have others around for many it a place of calm and retreat.

So to want that for yourself -leaving aside the financial drain - is very natural and not something to feel bad about.

I don't know the circumstances of course but with rents the way they are maybe your daughter simply can't afford to leave -pardon me if my assumption is wrong.

That does not mean that things cannot improve with your daughter still living htere. Firstly you need you own space, perhaps in time and quiet, perhaps in a particular room, perhaps a TV program you like. Secondly you need active willing help, two people in a house means two people share the chores, and finally you need financial assistance. This may be by charging an agreed amout of rent, or maybe paying for groceries , electricity and other necessities.

Do you think it is possible to explain these to your daughter and having her cooperate?

Please let me know what you think?

Croix

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Feeling guilty

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