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I'm losing feelings for my girlfriend. Can someone help?

Kr4d_Nr41k — Sat, 11 Nov 2023 03:04:41 GMT

We've been together for just under 6 months now. And lately I've just lost feelings for her. I don't know why this is or how to explain it because this is my first relationship. But earlier in the relationship I was so happy when I was around her. Now that's not the case, it's quite the opposite. My best mate and her and her best friend and an argument over something. And now her best friend wants nothing to do with me, and my girlfriend also hates his guts now. Now before I have people saying "You should communicate more", I already did. With my mate and her. What should I do? How do I try and salvage this?

Re: I'm losing feelings for my girlfriend. Can someone help?

Skary Bill — Sat, 11 Nov 2023 03:29:45 GMT

Hey Kr4d, welcome to the forum.

That sounds complicated.. I don't want to make any assumptions mate, but is it fair to say this is young love? Like a highschool/uni sweetheart? And I'm curious to know if you have a position on the argument? Like.. if you had to pick a side...

Cheers, Bill.

Re: I'm losing feelings for my girlfriend. Can someone help?

Carus — Sat, 11 Nov 2023 04:20:35 GMT

Hello KR*

Welcome to the world of normal relationships. Yup, this is how it goes. The first stage is called the honeymoon stage, full of newness and excitement....but that wears off....

In your head you still care for this girl, still have the narrative that we're 'in a relationship', still have a vision of how the near term and long term future was looking etc.....but your heart has changed. And once that happens, it's quite difficult to turn it around. Not impossible, but difficult....

One thing to accept is the honeymoon stage is over and gone. That's not coming back with this girl...

But the next stage can be a deeper and more sustainable partnership....However, also quite difficult in this day and age when you're still so young....which it sounds like you are....

Lastly, if this relationship is under threat because of one argument, that doesn't sound like an extremely solid foundation to build your castle on...

So you have some big decisions coming your way my friend*

Regards

Carus*