https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/life-just-doesn-t-stop/m-p/574360#M49971 <P><STRONG>Hello “little Austin”. Thank u for sharing and allowing yr vulnerable side. I have been in a relationship with my male partner for 24 yrs with 2 children. I lost my parents to cancer at age 7 + 21 yrs of age. I developed severe OCD as a result (a coping mechanism). I understand yr pain and suffering. Here for you anytime in need. I am a huge empath and love helping anyone in need<span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":broken_heart:">💔</span></STRONG></P> Wed, 13 Sep 2023 06:15:53 GMT Empathetic 2023-09-13T06:15:53Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/life-just-doesn-t-stop/m-p/574318#M49970 <P>I will start with background, I am an ex Australian Rep Triathlete. I now work as a QLD Firefighter and Irrigation Manager on a big farm. I have buried 2 of my 3 children, witnessed so much in my fire-fighter role. My wife is OCD and suffers so much from loosing our 2 boys that she has as much PTSD as myself. She doesn't relise that she has has fallen into coercive control. She works 2 days a week and I work 2 jobs over 60 hrs and have a $50 spend limit. I can't see friends until it's the weekend and everyone is in bed. I have to let her know every where I work during the day and if I am 30min late I have lied to her and cop an argument the size of the horse of Troy. She doesn't relise what is happening and if I bring it up she says the door is there. We have been married 18 years. I don't know where else to go and I am starting to drink more to escape.&nbsp;</P> Tue, 12 Sep 2023 08:39:44 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/life-just-doesn-t-stop/m-p/574318#M49970 Little_Austin 2023-09-12T08:39:44Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/life-just-doesn-t-stop/m-p/574360#M49971 <P><STRONG>Hello “little Austin”. Thank u for sharing and allowing yr vulnerable side. I have been in a relationship with my male partner for 24 yrs with 2 children. I lost my parents to cancer at age 7 + 21 yrs of age. I developed severe OCD as a result (a coping mechanism). I understand yr pain and suffering. Here for you anytime in need. I am a huge empath and love helping anyone in need<span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":broken_heart:">💔</span></STRONG></P> Wed, 13 Sep 2023 06:15:53 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/life-just-doesn-t-stop/m-p/574360#M49971 Empathetic 2023-09-13T06:15:53Z