https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/the-person-i-finally-wanted-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with/m-p/572402#M49806 <P>I have been with my partner for almost four years now.&nbsp;<BR />I found out last week that when he went away to America for a work trip, that he tried to pursue another female behind my back.&nbsp;<BR />When I confronted my partner after finding out, he swore on his life and our relationship that nothing happened and he didn’t go through with anything.&nbsp;<BR />But I decided to message the girl myself today, and found out everything he told me was a lie.&nbsp;<BR />He invited her to his hotel room and made out with her and was touching her.&nbsp;<BR />I am not coping or dealing with that at all right now.&nbsp;<BR />I feel like giving up on my life. I have been hurt too many times.&nbsp;<BR />I’m 25 years old, and nothing has ever been easy for me. I finally thought I had found someone who was never going to hurt me. Someone I finally felt safe and happy and myself around. Someone I could trust and call home forever.&nbsp;<BR />I feel so sad and lost and hopeless.&nbsp;</P> Mon, 14 Aug 2023 04:23:59 GMT Bee1998 2023-08-14T04:23:59Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/the-person-i-finally-wanted-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with/m-p/572402#M49806 <P>I have been with my partner for almost four years now.&nbsp;<BR />I found out last week that when he went away to America for a work trip, that he tried to pursue another female behind my back.&nbsp;<BR />When I confronted my partner after finding out, he swore on his life and our relationship that nothing happened and he didn’t go through with anything.&nbsp;<BR />But I decided to message the girl myself today, and found out everything he told me was a lie.&nbsp;<BR />He invited her to his hotel room and made out with her and was touching her.&nbsp;<BR />I am not coping or dealing with that at all right now.&nbsp;<BR />I feel like giving up on my life. I have been hurt too many times.&nbsp;<BR />I’m 25 years old, and nothing has ever been easy for me. I finally thought I had found someone who was never going to hurt me. Someone I finally felt safe and happy and myself around. Someone I could trust and call home forever.&nbsp;<BR />I feel so sad and lost and hopeless.&nbsp;</P> Mon, 14 Aug 2023 04:23:59 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/the-person-i-finally-wanted-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with/m-p/572402#M49806 Bee1998 2023-08-14T04:23:59Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/the-person-i-finally-wanted-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with/m-p/572406#M49808 Hey Bee1998<BR /> <BR /> Thank you for sharing here today. We are so deeply sorry that this has happened to you. It is completely understandable to be feeling those strong feelings of hopelessness, sadness and of feeling lost. When we are met with something so upsetting it can feel impossible to think of a way through it all.&nbsp;Treat yourself gently as you work through this - one step at a time. It can be a good idea to spend time around people who you feel safe and comfrotable with at this time; people who make you feel good about yourself .<BR /> If you ever feel like a chat - our Support Service would welcome your call, any time, on 1300 22 4636, or via webchat: <A href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support" target="_blank">https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support</A>&nbsp; Thank you for sharing this and giving this community a chance to offer you their support.&nbsp;&nbsp;<BR /> <BR /> Take good care of yourself Kind regards,&nbsp;&nbsp; Sophie M&nbsp; <BR /> <BR /> &nbsp; Mon, 14 Aug 2023 04:50:25 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/the-person-i-finally-wanted-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with/m-p/572406#M49808 Sophie_M 2023-08-14T04:50:25Z