https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/hi-in-new-here/m-p/556289#M47860 <P>Hi I'm new here.</P> <P>I was in a 12 year long-term relationship with my ex I also have a child with him I have another child to a previous relationship. My ex use to manipulative control me emotionally n mentally .we split when my youngest was 3 I was stupid to go back and split for good in june 2020 , me n kids moved in our own place and loved living alone. my dog of 17 years passed and broke me hard . Met my current partner in 2021 my current situation is I find it hard to live with my partner my head feels like ii cant breathe when im around people all the time if too much going on I will outburst I have awful episodes my body shuts down no head cant breathe head hurts so much has alot of pressure I just lay there for days I can't function at all I'm weak my bones are weak um so depressed I shut the world out and don't talk to anyone it starts off with thoughts about my partner.&nbsp; I feel the same when living with my partner as with my ex I feel like im living back with my ex i feel isolated and so unhappy so depressed and that's what I was scared of happening again and it has but I feel great when I live alone happy as can be and I need my own safety place I need alot of space as my head always feels messed up alot the past year with My partner n living arrangements&nbsp; and I don't no what to do I also have fibromyalgia so I dont no if that has anything to do with mu on going episodes.&nbsp;</P> <P>Thank you for listening x</P> Fri, 06 Jan 2023 18:36:35 GMT JJ281984 2023-01-06T18:36:35Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/hi-in-new-here/m-p/556289#M47860 <P>Hi I'm new here.</P> <P>I was in a 12 year long-term relationship with my ex I also have a child with him I have another child to a previous relationship. My ex use to manipulative control me emotionally n mentally .we split when my youngest was 3 I was stupid to go back and split for good in june 2020 , me n kids moved in our own place and loved living alone. my dog of 17 years passed and broke me hard . Met my current partner in 2021 my current situation is I find it hard to live with my partner my head feels like ii cant breathe when im around people all the time if too much going on I will outburst I have awful episodes my body shuts down no head cant breathe head hurts so much has alot of pressure I just lay there for days I can't function at all I'm weak my bones are weak um so depressed I shut the world out and don't talk to anyone it starts off with thoughts about my partner.&nbsp; I feel the same when living with my partner as with my ex I feel like im living back with my ex i feel isolated and so unhappy so depressed and that's what I was scared of happening again and it has but I feel great when I live alone happy as can be and I need my own safety place I need alot of space as my head always feels messed up alot the past year with My partner n living arrangements&nbsp; and I don't no what to do I also have fibromyalgia so I dont no if that has anything to do with mu on going episodes.&nbsp;</P> <P>Thank you for listening x</P> Fri, 06 Jan 2023 18:36:35 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/hi-in-new-here/m-p/556289#M47860 JJ281984 2023-01-06T18:36:35Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/hi-in-new-here/m-p/556303#M47861 <P>Hi, welcome</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>It all has t do with our need for love, we take risks and dive in regardless of our past experiences with living with someone. Eg you have had 2 past experiences then you end up without a partner and you are happy then you live with one again. Now, I'm not being too critical with you because I've done that myself when I should have taken my time and maybe not lived with someone so quickly.&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>If you are not happy you should seek that happiness especially for your childrens sake. This latest partner hasnt lived with you that long so maybe you can suggest a temporary separation to see how it goes?</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Whatever you decide seek stability and you have a right to that.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>TonyWK</P> Fri, 06 Jan 2023 14:01:04 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/hi-in-new-here/m-p/556303#M47861 white knight 2023-01-06T14:01:04Z