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Saving my marriage

That Other Guy — Thu, 07 Jul 2022 22:26:17 GMT

18 months ago my wife announced she couldn't stay with me any more. 12 months ago we stayed together on the basis we had an open relationship. Over 6 months I formed a relationship with someone else that was not really consumated (one failed attempt). When that started getting serious my wife pulled the plug but insisted she had a free pass to still see someone because I kind of had. She had a pretty full on encounter with another guy, and then assumed they could stay friends. I stopped talking to my friend and she stopped talking to hers

We have not lived together for 6 years, first because of study, then work. She said we'd start to see each other week on week off, but this month I will see her twice, both times for three days. One has happened, she made clear I was her last priority and I had one morning with her.

At the start of last year I felt sure no woman would ever talk to me, but in the open scenario I met many women who were interested in me, so I don't feel insecure any more. But I feel terrified to lose my long term marriage all the same. There are days I feel I can take this and days I can't. I don't know what to do. My wife won't leave, she gets everything she wants, she is in control and keeps me at arms lentgh most of the time. I want us to stay together but I am not sure if what we have, is what I wanted.....

Re: Saving my marriage

ruiner_misery — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 17:35:04 GMT

Hi that other guy,

I’m sorry that you have to go through this.
Seems a little unfair that she gets to continue being in an open relationship but not yourself?

Re: Saving my marriage

That Other Guy — Thu, 18 Aug 2022 22:56:38 GMT

To be clear, we're both not in open relationships, but when we closed she insisted on a free pass until she had one encounter, which she did on the last night she was allowed. I am left feeling like I was not enough and that we'd only been together and that meant something to me, and was garbage for her.

Re: Saving my marriage

Hotdog100 — Thu, 15 Sep 2022 20:02:17 GMT

mate I feel , your pain.

I am going through a tough time myself.