https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/husband-cheating-online-for-10-years/m-p/518253#M43197 <P>Hello, </P> <P>I have been with my husband for the last 10 years. All the years, he has been on and off cheating online talking to girls and flirting. I have stayed because I want to keep what we have and hoping that he will change. Now I am not sure if its worth it anymore. </P> <P>We have two children together. I must admit that I have been cruel to him verbally abusing him and would lash out and physically hurt him. I have no respect for him and things has been painful for him as well. Yesterday I found out that he has been subscribing for online prostitution and have engaging in it. I have found multiple and it’s terribly hurting me. He told me due to my behaviour he had been making bad choices and I said to him that my behaviour comes from the pain that I have been feeling in our relationship and that I’m depressed. </P> <P>I don’t know how to stay and forgive him when I have not been. I want to seperate but I feel guilty for my children. I want us to stay as a family for them but I don’t think I can keep allowing him to treat me like this. I don’t know what to do. </P> Thu, 18 Mar 2021 03:12:05 GMT Mary_A 2021-03-18T03:12:05Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/husband-cheating-online-for-10-years/m-p/518253#M43197 <P>Hello, </P> <P>I have been with my husband for the last 10 years. All the years, he has been on and off cheating online talking to girls and flirting. I have stayed because I want to keep what we have and hoping that he will change. Now I am not sure if its worth it anymore. </P> <P>We have two children together. I must admit that I have been cruel to him verbally abusing him and would lash out and physically hurt him. I have no respect for him and things has been painful for him as well. Yesterday I found out that he has been subscribing for online prostitution and have engaging in it. I have found multiple and it’s terribly hurting me. He told me due to my behaviour he had been making bad choices and I said to him that my behaviour comes from the pain that I have been feeling in our relationship and that I’m depressed. </P> <P>I don’t know how to stay and forgive him when I have not been. I want to seperate but I feel guilty for my children. I want us to stay as a family for them but I don’t think I can keep allowing him to treat me like this. I don’t know what to do. </P> Thu, 18 Mar 2021 03:12:05 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/husband-cheating-online-for-10-years/m-p/518253#M43197 Mary_A 2021-03-18T03:12:05Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/husband-cheating-online-for-10-years/m-p/518254#M43198 <P>Hi <SPAN class="sfforumUser">Mary A.</SPAN></P> <P><SPAN class="sfforumUser">I believe from what you have said that this situation maybe traumatic for all parties involved and that there is also a lot of pain, suffering and resentment involved. It makes sense that you resent him knowing that he was making unhealthy decisions for you and your family.</SPAN></P> <P><SPAN class="sfforumUser">Moving forward, it is time that you think about what you can do to get support (if not already) to help you navigate this overwhelming journey. I cannot stress that you are both humans, we are not perfect and that you are more valuable then your realise.</SPAN></P> <P><SPAN class="sfforumUser">What ever you do, know that this is a difficult situation and that you can reach out for support because you need to do what's right for you.</SPAN></P> Thu, 18 Mar 2021 11:25:25 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/husband-cheating-online-for-10-years/m-p/518254#M43198 Guest_3256 2021-03-18T11:25:25Z