https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/babysitting-upset/m-p/489134#M39087 <P>Welcome Emerald Emphasis and well done for making your post and starting a thread.</P> <P>Life is different now and everyone is under pressure.</P> <P>It would be nice for your partner's mum to appreciate how hard you are trying to look after and entertain her daughter.</P> <P>She may feel as you are living in her house that you may help in these difficult times.</P> <P>I can understand why you would liked to be thanked more but your partner's mum is probably feeling very tired.</P> <P>would you be able to explain to the mum that while you like to help you like her to know how you care for her child.?</P> <P>It is upsetting when people do not appreciate what we do. You are also lucky to have a place to live.We are told not to leave the house unless it is for something essential so you are doing the right thing.</P> <P> </P> Fri, 17 Apr 2020 12:44:37 GMT quirkywords 2020-04-17T12:44:37Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/babysitting-upset/m-p/489133#M39086 I have recently moved in with my partner and his family. We have our own space/section of the house. My partners mum works full time and has a young child. Due to the coronavirus she hasn't been sending her child to school. Which ia understandable. However, as she is under 16 she can't be left home alone. Therefore, I am looking after her, which I don't mind but I was never actually asked to. It was just assumed as I don't work currently. I have never even recieved a thankyou for babysitting and keeping her occupied which honestly would be nice. <BR /> <BR />By the afternoon I am tired from keeping the child occupied so at around 3/4 I put on a movie and go do my own thing. Still keeping an eye out but just having time to watch a show myself and relax. Whenever the mum comes home she says she hasn't been up to anything all day. Which isn't the case as they have been playing/talking etc with me. <BR /> <BR />The other day i heard the mum talking to a friend about me. Saying 'no wonder she has mental issues.She never leaves the house etc'. Well I can't leave the house because I'm looking after her kid. And she went on to say 'she does nothing all day'. <BR /> <BR />Just feel upset about the lack of thanks. Are my feelings justified? Fri, 17 Apr 2020 12:23:46 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/babysitting-upset/m-p/489133#M39086 EmeraldEmphasis 2020-04-17T12:23:46Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/babysitting-upset/m-p/489134#M39087 <P>Welcome Emerald Emphasis and well done for making your post and starting a thread.</P> <P>Life is different now and everyone is under pressure.</P> <P>It would be nice for your partner's mum to appreciate how hard you are trying to look after and entertain her daughter.</P> <P>She may feel as you are living in her house that you may help in these difficult times.</P> <P>I can understand why you would liked to be thanked more but your partner's mum is probably feeling very tired.</P> <P>would you be able to explain to the mum that while you like to help you like her to know how you care for her child.?</P> <P>It is upsetting when people do not appreciate what we do. You are also lucky to have a place to live.We are told not to leave the house unless it is for something essential so you are doing the right thing.</P> <P> </P> Fri, 17 Apr 2020 12:44:37 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/babysitting-upset/m-p/489134#M39087 quirkywords 2020-04-17T12:44:37Z