https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/issues-with-mother-on-mother-s-day/m-p/479359#M37558 <P>My entire life, my Mum has never been a fan of birthdays, christmases, easter, any kind of family holiday thing. I missed out on what I felt like is a lot of family bonding time because both my parents were so negative around all of them. And I used to hate it but now I just accept I can never get involved in Christmases etc like I want to. </P> <P>So, really, I dread my birthday and Christmas the exact same way they did when I was growing up. </P> <P>But now for some reason, for the first time in ever, my Mum got upset with me because I didn't do anything for mother's day for her. </P> <P>Am I a bad guy for not doing anything? Even though any year previously I've asked what she wants she never wants anything, or always blows anything off? </P> Sun, 10 May 2020 06:33:44 GMT QuietLily 2020-05-10T06:33:44Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/issues-with-mother-on-mother-s-day/m-p/479359#M37558 <P>My entire life, my Mum has never been a fan of birthdays, christmases, easter, any kind of family holiday thing. I missed out on what I felt like is a lot of family bonding time because both my parents were so negative around all of them. And I used to hate it but now I just accept I can never get involved in Christmases etc like I want to. </P> <P>So, really, I dread my birthday and Christmas the exact same way they did when I was growing up. </P> <P>But now for some reason, for the first time in ever, my Mum got upset with me because I didn't do anything for mother's day for her. </P> <P>Am I a bad guy for not doing anything? Even though any year previously I've asked what she wants she never wants anything, or always blows anything off? </P> Sun, 10 May 2020 06:33:44 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/issues-with-mother-on-mother-s-day/m-p/479359#M37558 QuietLily 2020-05-10T06:33:44Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/issues-with-mother-on-mother-s-day/m-p/479360#M37559 <P>Hi, welcome </P> <P>Well my “theory” is that she and your father don’t celebrate these special days because they are anti- fuss.</P> <P>Some people dislike being the centre of attention but like to be acknowledged in a low key manner.</P> <P>So maybe you’ve recoiled a little too much for her liking.?</P> <P>You can always give her flowers on another day with the caption “I missed the traditional day but every day is mother’s day”</P> <P>TonyWK</P> Sun, 10 May 2020 06:40:45 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/issues-with-mother-on-mother-s-day/m-p/479360#M37559 white knight 2020-05-10T06:40:45Z