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Being an Old Soul

PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 10:29:52 GMT

Greetings,

Currently whilst being on my hiatus of self growth and discovery I have particularly noticed that I have a tendency to feel incredibly lonesome and wanting, wishing and seeking to find my tribe. I'm an eccentric, passionate, flamboyant and charismatic young person who is just merely wanting to find my place in the world. It has become apparent, to me that it is awfully difficult to find others of my age bracket that wear vintage clothes, admire antique furnishings, listen to psychedelic , classic, experimental rock/blues music or even have an idea of what I am talking about. I find my generation far too superficial, perhaps needy and undetermined to be different and unusual. I flaunt my uniqueness wherever I go with bold, loud and fierce vintage styles (consisting of loads of flowers, colours and my wicked collection of go go boots too) Like I said I'm confident with who I am and what I like ; I would NEVER change for the world... I just feel that my uniqueness and capability of freely sharing my self expression may intimidate or even perhaps scare other people my age a way. I am awkward around others my age because I don't really know how to speak to them. One problem being because I am not at all intrigued in modern societies' fads that seem to go out style within five minutes.. like I said I would rather sip my herbal tea and listen to my records on my turntable than attend drug or alcohol parties.

I also live in an area that does not really seem to encourage nor support my idea of being unusual. The environment around me makes me think that self expression is not acceptable and I should just be restricted to supporting the ways of the so called 'social NORM'

Signed,

Being an Old Soul

Juliet_84 — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 11:11:54 GMT

Hi PF,

Like you I have a particular interest in previous times, specifically the 50s and 60s, particularly the architecture, music and vintage items. I agree that the world seems too ‘fake’ these days, with focus on social media, brands, and flashy cars. Like you, this leaves me a bit cold and I find myself shunning most people my age. That being said, for every Instagram wannabe, I also think there is another one who rejects that type of thing. The way I see it you have a couple of options, the first is to go out in search of your tribe, which would involve spending a lot of time in more alternative type suburbs (such as Newton in Sydney) etc. Alternatively, you could start a MeetUp group based on the type of things that you enjoy doing based on your interests in the hopes of attracting like minded individuals. Or the last option is to accept that there may be people who don’t enjoy the same thing as you but that they may not be bad people anyway. If we all dressed the same and liked the exact same things life would be pretty boring right!

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PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 11:22:17 GMT

Much appreciated for your response Juliet_84. You do definitely speak wisdom though. I guess not all situations are permanent anyway. Perhaps as our society progresses more people will realise that what was once the norm was superficial and somewhat toxic. One can only hope though.
stay groovy, and thank you so much.

PsychedelicFur

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Katyonthehamsterwheel — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 11:38:28 GMT

Interesting post! I am in my 40's and never quite felt I fit. I think that's what happens when you think a little differently. My son is 23 and he's the same. He always thought that when he went to uni he would find people that he could communicate with, but alas it wasn't to be.

I do like the idea of starting a group or even just going on some sort of public forum and saying "hey, who's into "x"?". All the best. I think you sound pretty awesome 🙂

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therising — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 18:55:49 GMT

Hi PF

Without a doubt, you're an inspiration! Sounds like you'd love the idea of breathing life into people who have forgotten how to breathe life, in its most natural form.

A little outside the square but have you considered not necessarily finding people who dress in a similar way or listen to similar music but simply vibe high like you. Other high vibers may be open minded enough to be encouraged by you and exchange ideas. When this happens, we vibe even higher cause we're mutually excited when it comes to raising each other into more natural states of being.

The high vibers can be found in a lot of different places in society. Not everyone's cup of tea but you'll see high vibers at psychic expos, gay pride parades, positive constructive social activist gatherings and so on. They're drawn to places where they are encouraged to be themselves.

BEWARE, if you join other high vibers you will be accused of being even more 'weird' 🙂 I can say that because I'm one of those weird folk myself. Flares, purple hair at times, live for all that high energy psychic stuff and so on. Yes, it's a crazy world of fun, natural freedom and pure joy. You may agree when I say that living in such a way is far from crazy or weird.

Search for those who have retained elements of the child nature: They love to dress up, have adventures, play freely with self expression (within reason), love to love unconditionally, often question 'Why?' (aka challenge the system) etc etc. They're out there.

Keep the faith and don't forget to keep having fun 🙂

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quirkywords — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 19:40:56 GMT

I just want to say your title old soulm caught my eye as people have said that about me since I was young.

I can relate to that yearning to find ones tribe as I have often felt I never fitted in and that I need to change to fit in which never worked.

I am so glad you are confident enough to realise your uniqueness and not to change.

This is a safe place that is nonjudgmental. Hopefully you will find your tribe soon.

Quirky

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PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 19:55:32 GMT

Thank you so much for the kind, supportive and understanding words Quirky. I love the name too! I’m glad others are recognised as ‘Old Souls’ too. It brings me some relief and comfort. Like I said the response you posted here has meant a lot and I appreciate all of the wisdom or knowledge you have to share. Maybe there are more people alike than what I really think. Stay groovy and keep on Swingin’.
psychedelicfur

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PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 20:04:37 GMT

Hello Katy,

thank you for the lovely response. I appreciate it immensely. It is good and also refreshing to hear that other young people, like your son are different too. Thank you for your kind words, I’m just content with being me though! You sound pretty groovy yourself. I’m glad people responding to this thread. I did not think I would get any responses. But your words have comforted me in a time of gloominess. Thank you,
psychedelicfur

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PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 20:11:47 GMT

Hey there TheRising,

firstly thank you for the response. I appreciate all the time and effort individuals have put into answering my thread. I am very much aware that if I do join a group of perhaps free spirited or individuals with free lanced lifestyles I would be classified even more of a ‘misfit’

you have helped me in a moment of gloominess and confusion.
I very much agree the way you or I live is far from weird. To be it’s perfectly normal to different. Pupae hair and bell bottoms though!! That sounds so groovy and funky.
Ride on, keep on Swingin’

you have brightened my day even more,

psychedelicfur

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PsychedelicFur — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 20:13:58 GMT

Apologises for my spelling errors. I was meant to say to be honest the way you I live is far from weird! Purple hair and bell bottoms sounds groovy and funky though.

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Guest_9043 — Fri, 22 Nov 2019 09:40:57 GMT

Hi PF,

Thanks for posting this. I am an old soul as well. Try googling old soul and having an in depth more read. Not because you do not know about yourself, more so to help along your journey in life. I have struggled immensely since I was born. No one wants to be alone, cruising through life alone and lonely. I can certainly relate to wanting to find your tribe of people. I was very pleased to read you would NOT change for the world because you are needed as you are and for who you are. I also understand that making this choice leads to more isolation and frustration. It's hard for us. I am not sure how old you are, I am 40 years old. I have lost my entire family now so I am truly very alone and very lonely. I also have no friends for many reasons. Being an old soul I find it hard to make friends. I know I am different and unusual. More times than not i just end up being used, hurt and discarded. It is even harder when you SEE not just with your eyes but your soul why it has happened and there is not a lot you can do about it. I long for friendships in my heart. I had a very difficult life, abuse all the way through till five months ago so now I am working on never ever being abused again. I have made significant changes in the last five months and am waking up more and more. Just want to say thank you for posting from one old soul to another.

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PsychedelicFur — Fri, 22 Nov 2019 10:22:49 GMT

Much appreciated for your rather thought provoking and immensely intriguing response. It’s good to see the ultimate beauty in things. I particularly am quite fond of finding beauty in nature and preowned things. Philosophy helps me quite a bit too. I am a deep thinker. I am particularly grateful that this post of mine has made you not feel so alone or isolated. I posted it rather spontaneously without really thinking about the fact that anyone would respond. The world needs more precious old souls like us. The world needs more authenticity and realism. The world needs us. The message I take from posting this is that it’s perfectly okay to be different.
it’s refreshing. It’s cleansing. It’s true. Being such a sensitive and perhaps vulnerable soul indeed attracts the wrong crowds at times, I’m afraid. I’m guilty of hanging around some pretty bad influences in my time of living. The point is to keep striving. Perseverance is key.

all the best,

Psychedelicfur.

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Guest_1584 — Sat, 23 Nov 2019 23:43:13 GMT

Being different has a price , and if it's just a fad those will fade away and they'll slip into the norm once they've finished their little experiment. See that all the time, take grain of salt.

But for those of us genuinely different to the core , for life, real , there's prices to be paid right through but eh , no problemo, who cares, you won't change the world and the norm will always be the most , but that's ok. You find a piece in time stating open to the norm too, sometimes they can still be great people and happy for you to be you and them to be them, live and let live.

But l've found my whole life if who you are is true then you just have to do your thing and except that it'll usually be alone or maybe you get lucky and meet someone , or a few, where your all just you/them, comfy, like minded. Me l've found that's more turned out to be in my partner , not much luck in friends as such , so much, rarely. But that's cool too, lid for every pot right. So if all else fails when you find and meet them, your two peas in a pod anyway and all is well in the world, your world , and that can be a beautiful thing.

Be you live you , good luck.

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Guest_1584 — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 00:14:02 GMT

ps, ahh, that was suppose to say , you find your peace in time, staying open to the norm too.

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PsychedelicFur — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 01:30:02 GMT

Much appreciated for your response randomx. I suffer with the same issue. I have had friends in the past who were part of the social norm and due to the fact that I have a refusal to change they left me pretty much. Being true does make you feel lonely. But that is all okay I suppose. At least self growth and discovery is a beautiful thing. It has helped me immensely along my anxiety journey. Your response has helped me in a moment of unfulfilling darkness and unmeasurable pain. I appreciate it.
I’m glad others have had the courage to speak up about their issues too. It has provided me with some sort of comfortable. Thank you again, stay true. I guess genuine and emotionally strong connections build as we grow older. At my age people seem far too superficial and confused to show their true identity.
I will keep hopping along to my own drum though.
many thanks,

psychedelicfur.

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Guest_1584 — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 08:26:04 GMT

Heya pf, and thanks for that , my pleasure.

Really sorry to hear about those friends , and of where your at atm. Unfortunately it happens, people are people, it won't always be like that though keep the faith. You know in your case maybe there's things your passionate about you could join or go to or get involved with and in those find your people, maybe move to a better spot later on too. l'm moving again soon l so don't fit here l mayas well ware a flag. Me l'm such a weird mix though that l really don't have many things like that to do will help but there are and have been people l have bits and pieces with, talk and feel the same on levels, even if it's just over a beer and a chats of whatever that can be really nice too yaknow. You'll find your level in time hang in there , and there's still lots of people will always surprise you too, in a nice way, sometimes to two totally different drums are just quite happy together too.

Lots of things can happen, keep on hoppin. 00

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Guest_9043 — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 08:43:57 GMT

Hi there,

It's taken me a while to respond to you. Sorry about that. I too am a deep thinker and very empathic. I'm struggling a lot right now. I would usually say a lot more however I am in one of my serious, quiet moods. I usually get like this where I'm just feeling overwhelmed and low. Being quiet is a way of coping and just knowing I cannot have anymore incoming information nor feeling cause I'm just trying to manage current difficulties.

Yes, we are needed. We need to be in environments that are nurturing and good for us because the world can just be sometimes too heavy. I find nature is much needed around those times to get away from the mayhem and chaos. More and more I'm feeling I need it a lot. When I do buy my house, it's going through be out bush. I cannot do cities, mayhem and chaos anymore with no place to recharge.

Best wishes to you too and keep on persevering.

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PsychedelicFur — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 09:47:01 GMT

You do speak wisdom though randomx. I value that.

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PsychedelicFur — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 09:49:59 GMT

Thank you for all the in depth 2quik. Best of luck. Hopefully whatever obstacles you are trying to cross now you can smoothly but slowly work through and get back on track. It takes time. Perseverance is key. I would say, typically don’t over think too much... however that is virtually impossible for us deep thinkers. Sometimes the only thing we know what to do is to deep think and over analyse.

Best of luck,

Psychedelicfur.

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PsychedelicFur — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 09:58:16 GMT

Oh yes, I too cannot do cities. As just the thought of the traffic, over population of rushing people and pollution simply petrifies me. I do love nature and trees. Trees are so majestic and I do simply admire the true historical aspect of them. They tell so many stories. Flowers are fabulous too. Nature is beautiful. Feeling anxious? Go and take a walk amongst the ferns in a forest! Feeling sad? Go and do some gardening. Truly magnificent!

Thank you for your response again too. Haha. Stay groovy.