topic feeling helpless in Relationship and family issues

feeling helpless

Matchy69 — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 02:05:15 GMT

I have met a girl who i have fallen madly in love with.She replied to an add of mine.The problem is she is married and in a marriage that she dosnt want to be in and says wants to leave her cheating husband but is to scared to.I cant stop thinking about this girl and cant do anything i just spend my days and night thinking about her and just crying all the time for her.I dont know what to do.

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CEE_CEE — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 03:03:59 GMT

Hi,
I am sorry to hear this. But I know how you are feeling. I am in a similar situation with a married man. Would love to see if we can help each other.

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Matchy69 — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 03:10:54 GMT

That would be good if we could help each other.I just sit by my phone waiting for her to ring.I cant think of anything else but her.

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CEE_CEE — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 03:23:03 GMT

I know the feeling, I wait for a text and I end up texting and wait for a reply sometimes it's minutes and sometimes it's hours. Tell me your story if you want.

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Matchy69 — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 03:38:33 GMT

I put an add online just looking for a friend for dinner movies etc and i had a reply from a girl who was from USA and was living here in Australia and we started just msg each other and seemed to have a connection and then stopped msg me for 6 months then one night i got a phone call from her as i had given her my number but we only talked on the dating sight.And she told me her story that she was unhappily married and kept thinking about me so we started talking on the phone and she would ring me when her husband was at work and then she wanted to meet and we met up so we met up at a pub and was hitting it off so well and then husband rung and she just took off back home.She has come out to my place and tells me i am the sweetest and kindest man she has met.We live 1hr45minutes from each other.I just cant stop thinking about her and want to be with her.I am crying while writing this.I went through a really messy divorce about 4 years ago and wasnt looking to fall in love again.

Whats your story if you dont mind me asking

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Matchy69 — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 04:28:52 GMT

A little a bit more about my self i suffer from depression and anxiety and was severely teased when i was at school.I am 50 now but still effects me today

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CEE_CEE — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 06:14:41 GMT

I met my married guy out one night he is in a band. I got to know him and found out we live like minutes from each other. He was married but sleeping in separate rooms. We just started talking more and then got physical. It's been over a year now. He says he won't leave his wife cause of the financial outcome and their daughter. A few months after we started seeing each other he asked his wife if they could be an open marriage she agreed turns out she wasn't entirely happy

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CEE_CEE — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 06:17:07 GMT

I didn't want to loose him as we had a major connection. He's said it to. But I'm having issue with the open marriage. I can't let go but probably should. Really struggling.

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Matchy69 — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 06:46:58 GMT

My lady asked her husband who has admitted to cheating on her if we would be ok if she cheated on him and said to her but you never would cheat.I know i should let go but i cant,i just cant stop thinking about her.Their hasnt been and sex between us as i am impotent.How do i let go when you cant stop thinking about the other person?

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CEE_CEE — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 22:50:44 GMT

There has to be a reason why she won't leave her husband? Especially if he's cheated. You can't stop thinking about her cause you care about her. You love her. It's normal. L

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Matchy69 — Sun, 15 Sep 2019 01:21:10 GMT

The reason she gives is she comes from a broken home and does not want to do that to her son and is scared that her son will grow up hating her,he's 4 and she is worried about the financial side of it.

This has effected my health and haven't been sleeping and eating,i have lost 20kgs in weight the last few months.I just can't stop thinking about her.

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CEE_CEE — Sun, 15 Sep 2019 11:29:08 GMT

Staying in a bad marriage won't make her happy eventually her son will see this.... Have you tried distracting yourself for a little bit each day. I found cooking or crafts or a good day in the yard helps. ATM I am binge watching a who done it kind of tv shown

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CEE_CEE — Sun, 15 Sep 2019 11:33:26 GMT

Ok that's understandable but her son with pick up shes unhappy eventually. She deserves to be happy. They both do.
And sound like you need to find yourself a really good distraction. Cooking, crafts, a good book. A day in the yard. just start with a half an hour a day. I did the crafts it worked for a few days. Now I'm binge watching a murder mystery show and it helps me keep my mind active on other stuff. And I don't sleep either I had to get medication to help with that.

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Matchy69 — Sun, 15 Sep 2019 17:18:15 GMT

Yes i tried doing things during the day,i just cant seem keep my mind of her.I do have medication for sleeping but only gives me 3 hours of sleep a night.I put the tv on and dont even know what i am watching.I will try to do something today at in the garden.And today its her birthday and i celebrated it last week with her.

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CEE_CEE — Mon, 16 Sep 2019 04:04:38 GMT

Do you have friends you can catch up with, grab a coffee with or lunch with. There will be something out there that will help you, we just need to find it. But what I think you need to do is think about where things may go. If she's not going to leave her husband can you be ok with that. It's not fair on you to keep you hanging on with hope that one day you will be together if she won't leave him.

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Matchy69 — Mon, 16 Sep 2019 20:10:29 GMT

Thats what i think about that we will never be truly together.I was originally ok with it as i was only lookng for a female friend but now have fallen madly in love with her.Its so hard to know what to do,it scares me the thought of losing her.

Where do you think your relationship is going to go?

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Matchy69 — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 00:03:05 GMT

A turn for the worst has happen she has all of a sudden blocked me and i dont know why.I feel so misserable and just want to talk to her.I just dont know what to do.

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Matchy69 — Thu, 19 Sep 2019 22:59:10 GMT

Anybody want to listen to me

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JessF — Thu, 19 Sep 2019 23:29:18 GMT

Hello Matchy69, sorry your last few posts have been missed. What's on your mind? Being blocked and cut off sounds like it has really taken you by surprise.

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Matchy69 — Thu, 19 Sep 2019 23:43:54 GMT

It was my own fault from my anxiety and insecurities.I rung her costantly for 2 days without her answering,told me she had been to busy and is now scared of me for making that many calls and thinks im a mental case and a stalker.I can understand from her point of view and apologigized and tried explain about my anxiety issues and depression but she hung up and completely blocked me now.I know i am a good person.I know i have lost her forever now.