https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455361#M34920 <P>I don’t literally mean ‘backfired’ !!!!!</P> <P> </P> Tue, 07 May 2019 03:27:11 GMT Bellia 2019-05-07T03:27:11Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455360#M34919 <P>I initiated a sexual relationship with a long term acquaintance. It was a brave and nerve wracking move as he is very familiar to me in a small town senerio. I am a single mum who has been able to create a loving relationship with a partner for years, I thought I would just create a physical opportunity as I really miss sex!</P> <P>but, my body backfired.&nbsp;It was an awkward experience and this man has gone from desperately wanting me to being very ‘nice’ without a hint of the sexual urgency he first responded to my text with. My self esteem has plummeted and I was trying to lift it through this experience!! I feel so hopeless as I need a physical relationship and I don’t seem able to get it. As a single mum I feel so alone and unloved.. I feel like I blew it and I feel self conscious and deeply ashamed and embarrassed. Why did my body do this! But more frustrating is the inability to really discuss it with him as I can see he finds my anxiety unnecessaryvto his reality and needs.. I wanted no strings attached sex, now I’m experiencing an isolated frustration and confusion. It’s horrible</P> Mon, 06 May 2019 21:16:18 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455360#M34919 Bellia 2019-05-06T21:16:18Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455361#M34920 <P>I don’t literally mean ‘backfired’ !!!!!</P> <P> </P> Tue, 07 May 2019 03:27:11 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455361#M34920 Bellia 2019-05-07T03:27:11Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455362#M34921 <P>Bella,</P> <P>I can see why you would feel confused and your self esteem has plummeted.</P> <P>It can be hard when you take a risk that did turn out as you had wanted. </P> <P>Do you think even though you wanted this but you were not really comfortable with this? </P> <P>i am sorry you feel horrible.</P> <P>What would you like to see happen so you feel better? </P> <P>Quirky </P> Tue, 07 May 2019 08:13:54 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/post-sex-doubts-and-confusion/m-p/455362#M34921 quirkywords 2019-05-07T08:13:54Z