https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/any-advice-on-managing-feelings-towards-friends/m-p/453523#M34571 <P>Hi, welcome </P> <P>There is a saying "be careful what you wish for"</P> <P>For 50 years since year 7 at school (now 63), I've been envious of my friend.</P> <P>He sailed a yacht then staryed up his own engineering firm in the Pilbara just as the mining boom came. He is a multi millionaire with over 20 houses.</P> <P>Three years ago he found out he has pancreatic cancer. Once you are diagnosed it is ofyen in the advanced stages...and it was. He was given 3-6 months, its been 3 years but his chances of living beyond 5 years is 5%.</P> <P>But back to you. You reap what you sow. Expand your dating possibilities by getting another hobby or sport, buy a cute puppy...these tactics work . Go on computer dating. Be positive...ask guys out! It's 2019, guys like to be liked. Join clubs...footy club ?. Attend motivation lectures. </P> <P>Google</P> <P>30 minutes can change your life </P> <P>Beyondblue Topic do you like yourself, your thoughts are welcome</P> <P>TonyWK </P> Mon, 06 May 2019 05:59:13 GMT white knight 2019-05-06T05:59:13Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/any-advice-on-managing-feelings-towards-friends/m-p/453522#M34570 <P>Hi there,</P> <P>I'm having trouble with some interuptive thoughts that i'm seeking ideas to manage. My friend has recently fallen pregnant with her second child. I'm jealous. I've had a few harsh thoughts that 'every-thing is working out for her' and 'she's so lucky'. I know things are no where near that simple but i find it hard to challenge my thoughts and it does seem like many things are going well for her.</P> <P>I'm working on directing my life to things that would be good for me - but i don't think i'm that good at it/having much success. That is, while i have a lot of good things going in my life i don't think i can get to where she is - children, partner, financially well off.</P> <P>Any advice on managing feelings towards friends?</P> Sun, 05 May 2019 01:48:04 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/any-advice-on-managing-feelings-towards-friends/m-p/453522#M34570 wonderingcat 2019-05-05T01:48:04Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/any-advice-on-managing-feelings-towards-friends/m-p/453523#M34571 <P>Hi, welcome </P> <P>There is a saying "be careful what you wish for"</P> <P>For 50 years since year 7 at school (now 63), I've been envious of my friend.</P> <P>He sailed a yacht then staryed up his own engineering firm in the Pilbara just as the mining boom came. He is a multi millionaire with over 20 houses.</P> <P>Three years ago he found out he has pancreatic cancer. Once you are diagnosed it is ofyen in the advanced stages...and it was. He was given 3-6 months, its been 3 years but his chances of living beyond 5 years is 5%.</P> <P>But back to you. You reap what you sow. Expand your dating possibilities by getting another hobby or sport, buy a cute puppy...these tactics work . Go on computer dating. Be positive...ask guys out! It's 2019, guys like to be liked. Join clubs...footy club ?. Attend motivation lectures. </P> <P>Google</P> <P>30 minutes can change your life </P> <P>Beyondblue Topic do you like yourself, your thoughts are welcome</P> <P>TonyWK </P> Mon, 06 May 2019 05:59:13 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/any-advice-on-managing-feelings-towards-friends/m-p/453523#M34571 white knight 2019-05-06T05:59:13Z