https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/keep-pushing-people-away-old-new-relationships/m-p/435434#M33146 <P>Hi Pink Pigg,</P> <P>Welcome to the community here on the forum. Sorry to read about your depression and anxiety.</P> <P>I certainly understand pushing people away when you are hurting. It can be a case of really wanting someone to be there for you but feeling like you need to run away at the same time. Is that sort of how you have felt?</P> <P>Some people understand depression and others don't. At present with social distancing and rules it is harder still to re-form old connections.</P> <P>All I can suggest is to try to keep reaching out. People will either connect or not. It is hard to accept the rejection, but think of it is a reflection of them and not you.</P> <P>I know this forum is not the same as having friendships, but there is a social zone here. You might find some topics you would like to join in with.</P> <P>Are there things that you enjoy doing? I understand when we are depressed it is hard to continue with activities that help and offer us a sense of enjoyment. Some times we need to do more for ourselves.</P> <P>I'm in a bit of a rut myself so have been going out walking, gardening, doing crafts and a jigsaw puzzle. It helps to keep the mind active.</P> <P>I've pushed friends away recently, so will send out some texts and emails and see if people want to keep in touch or not. If not, that is okay. All I can do is try and then look after myself.</P> <P>Wish I had some answers and solutions for you! </P> <P>Regards from Dools</P> <P> </P> Sun, 26 Apr 2020 21:52:58 GMT Doolhof 2020-04-26T21:52:58Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/keep-pushing-people-away-old-new-relationships/m-p/435433#M33145 I've been trying to reach out to people who I once pushed away when my anxiety and depression was really bad. I've begun taking medication and have a better mindset, but I can't connect with anyone and it's making me spiral back into a deep depression. I need advice in maintaining/fixing old and new friendships/relationships. I've been alone for a while and want to make an effort but even then it doesn't look like anything I'm doing is working. Sun, 26 Apr 2020 15:34:35 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/keep-pushing-people-away-old-new-relationships/m-p/435433#M33145 PinkPigg 2020-04-26T15:34:35Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/keep-pushing-people-away-old-new-relationships/m-p/435434#M33146 <P>Hi Pink Pigg,</P> <P>Welcome to the community here on the forum. Sorry to read about your depression and anxiety.</P> <P>I certainly understand pushing people away when you are hurting. It can be a case of really wanting someone to be there for you but feeling like you need to run away at the same time. Is that sort of how you have felt?</P> <P>Some people understand depression and others don't. At present with social distancing and rules it is harder still to re-form old connections.</P> <P>All I can suggest is to try to keep reaching out. People will either connect or not. It is hard to accept the rejection, but think of it is a reflection of them and not you.</P> <P>I know this forum is not the same as having friendships, but there is a social zone here. You might find some topics you would like to join in with.</P> <P>Are there things that you enjoy doing? I understand when we are depressed it is hard to continue with activities that help and offer us a sense of enjoyment. Some times we need to do more for ourselves.</P> <P>I'm in a bit of a rut myself so have been going out walking, gardening, doing crafts and a jigsaw puzzle. It helps to keep the mind active.</P> <P>I've pushed friends away recently, so will send out some texts and emails and see if people want to keep in touch or not. If not, that is okay. All I can do is try and then look after myself.</P> <P>Wish I had some answers and solutions for you! </P> <P>Regards from Dools</P> <P> </P> Sun, 26 Apr 2020 21:52:58 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/keep-pushing-people-away-old-new-relationships/m-p/435434#M33146 Doolhof 2020-04-26T21:52:58Z