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Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

Rete — Sun, 14 Apr 2019 02:32:46 GMT

Me and my gf have been together for 2 yrs and things have been going great. We are both girls btw. This is my first relationship and I really thought she was the one. 2 wks ago she decided that it’s best we separate, she said she is choosing her studies over a relationship. I kept asking her how is that a reasonable explanation to break up and then she told me she doesn’t want to be the breadwinner. Then I just bursted and I wrote to her how she is so selfish etc and how she promised to always love me and we will be together forever. I found out today she deleted all our pics on her Instagram.

At the time she broke up with me she said that we could remain friends but after I lashed out she blocked me. I don’t know what to do now, I want to be with her. I have no friends at all and she was the only one to keep me company and now she is gone I have been crying everyday.

I don’t understand her reasoning? Why did she suddenly break up with me out of the blue? Is she really happy now that I’m not in her life?

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

geoff — Sun, 14 Apr 2019 02:54:12 GMT

Hi Rete, thanks and welcome to the site.

I'm sorry for what has happened and understand what has happened.

I just wanted to let you know that I will reply back to you tomorrow morning if that is OK, I only say this because a couple of people start first thing in the morning and for me it's time to logoff as I begin at midnight, but please don't take this as being you haven't been recognised, you certainly have.

Geoff.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

geoff — Sun, 14 Apr 2019 23:06:28 GMT

Hi Rete, sorry I'm late in getting back to you, but from what you've said I think it may be more than choosing her studies over having a relationship with you, especially as she has blocked you, I wonder whether she has met another person, and I'm so sorry to mention this and hope I haven't upset you and if so, my apologies.

If you can get back to us then we can talk about it a little more.

Please take care.

Geoff.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

Rete — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 11:15:57 GMT

Hi Geoff, thanks for your reply.

I don’t think she has met anyone yet cause she has been distant from her friends from what I know. However, Her reason to break up due to her studies is a bit odd and I’m struggling to accept it. I still want to remain friends with her tho and I’m tempting to email her..

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

geoff — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 15:50:07 GMT

Hi Rete, has she replied to any of your emails?

It's awful when someone you want to be friends with or even love decide to close the door on you because there are so many memories when you are left in the house by yourself.

I'm sorry it's not easy and hope you do hear back from her.

Geoff.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

Rete — Tue, 16 Apr 2019 11:22:23 GMT

I haven’t written her an email yet cause I’m not sure if I should just leave her alone? It hurts me that she hasn’t contacted me again or unblocked me.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

geoff — Wed, 17 Apr 2019 18:39:42 GMT

Hello Rete, I think that's the million dollar question, but this decision is something you have to make, whether you want to try and contact her or the effort will drain you.

Is there a chance you could ask her if you can have partial contact with her only by email or SMS, and if this happens, it's still going to give you expectations that may not eventuate.

This is what is going to worry me, your doubt and hope which can cause many misconceptions about whether she still loves you.

Have you seen your doctor, but please can you get back to me .

Take care.

Geoff.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

Rete — Thu, 18 Apr 2019 09:31:19 GMT

Hi Geoff, it really is driving me insane. I know she will be on break the whole of next week so she would be free. I am just wondering what she is doing right now.

I think I will try to refrain myself from contacting her until she does first. Cause if she still wants to talk to me then she will. It still hurts so much.

No, I haven’t seen a doctor and I have social anxiety.

I wish and hope she will talk to me again. I feel extremely lonely.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

geoff — Thu, 18 Apr 2019 18:35:07 GMT

Hi Rete, oh boy, I know how hard it must be for you, losing the love who has just cut you off.

The test will be while she has a few days off and if there is no contact, by any means, I think her decision has been made, unfortunately.

As you have social anxiety a doctor can refer you to a psychologist on a mental health plan, so you can talk on a one to one basis, and I'm only saying this because of your friend who may have led the way.

Are you able to make some changes in your life that may help you.

I'd be interested to know what you do and what you like to do during the day.

Take care.

Geoff.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

Rete — Fri, 19 Apr 2019 00:33:44 GMT

I’m really in a mess right now I keep replaying all our memories together and well we used to get along. I don’t know how she changed her mind so fast.

I’m still crying over her..

I don’t think I can see someone outside to get help. I don’t know if it can helped.

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

quirkywords — Fri, 19 Apr 2019 02:09:05 GMT

Rete,

I have just read your posts and my heart goes out to you. Relationships are so wonderful and the best when they go well but when one person wants out, it hits you like a brick and you feel you will never get over this and feel better one day.

I think you may need time to grieve the loss of the relationship . Geoff has given you support and helpful suggestions.

I am also interested in what things you like doing during the day.

Quirky

Gf broke up with me cause of her studies

LeopardLilly — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 04:08:45 GMT

Hi Rete,

I honestly do sympathise with your situation but mine was a lot less impactful. I liked a guy for two years on and off and he did too, and two days before school began we began dating. I was over the moon. But then the night before school began, after our first date he broke up with me because he couldn't handle school and a relationship.

It's really random and you wonder why they suddenly decided that they studies were more important, it impacted my well-being horrifically and I cried non-stop. But then I asked him recently why he did it all, and he didn't know. Sometimes people simply do things because they feel like it, and they aren't worth it. The best thing to do is try to communicate more with the people you do know and look at the relationship as a learning experience.

The girl you dated must also be upset so try to be a little empathetic and give her some time, maybe she will change her mind too. Distance is a good way to realise how much you love someone, and good things will happen to you too!