https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/partner-diagnosed-with-depression-and-now-he-s-cheating-on-me/m-p/399238#M28896 <P>My partner has been diagnosed with depression 4 weeks ago. Since then he’s completely shut down on me and won’t see me. </P> <P>Before this he was having problem in the bedroom and when we started discussing it that’s when this all came out about the depression, I helped him to get help and have been trying to support him but he’s completely shut down on me saying he’s emotionally exhausted and needs space. </P> <P>The other day I found out he’s cheated on me, and also he’s on tinder and doing god knows what. I’m so heart broken. </P> <P>He said the issues with the bedroom concerned him and he had to see if it could work otherwise he’s not a man. </P> <P>I’m so confused and I don’t understand what is going on. He started meds a few weeks ago and since then it’s like he’s spiraling </P> Thu, 21 Mar 2019 08:05:24 GMT Dani___ 2019-03-21T08:05:24Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/partner-diagnosed-with-depression-and-now-he-s-cheating-on-me/m-p/399238#M28896 <P>My partner has been diagnosed with depression 4 weeks ago. Since then he’s completely shut down on me and won’t see me. </P> <P>Before this he was having problem in the bedroom and when we started discussing it that’s when this all came out about the depression, I helped him to get help and have been trying to support him but he’s completely shut down on me saying he’s emotionally exhausted and needs space. </P> <P>The other day I found out he’s cheated on me, and also he’s on tinder and doing god knows what. I’m so heart broken. </P> <P>He said the issues with the bedroom concerned him and he had to see if it could work otherwise he’s not a man. </P> <P>I’m so confused and I don’t understand what is going on. He started meds a few weeks ago and since then it’s like he’s spiraling </P> Thu, 21 Mar 2019 08:05:24 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/partner-diagnosed-with-depression-and-now-he-s-cheating-on-me/m-p/399238#M28896 Dani___ 2019-03-21T08:05:24Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/partner-diagnosed-with-depression-and-now-he-s-cheating-on-me/m-p/399239#M28897 <P>Hi, welcome </P> <P>We are limited in talking about meds and we arent professional medical staff.</P> <P>Medication for MI usually starts to take effect around the 6 week mark. </P> <P>His disloyalty is pure unfaithful behabiour. His excuse "to prove he is a man" is ridiculous.</P> <P>The following thread highlights some basic behaviour for suffeters towards their carer. Use google</P> <P>Beyondblue Topic who cares for the carer? </P> <P>I suggest you rethink your future. Of course if you make that move be gentle but firm and determined. Grief will hit you but time will heal and you will blossom</P> <P>TonyWK </P> <P> </P> Thu, 21 Mar 2019 11:47:48 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/partner-diagnosed-with-depression-and-now-he-s-cheating-on-me/m-p/399239#M28897 white knight 2019-03-21T11:47:48Z