https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-struggle-to-make-friends-and-get-people-to-like-me-i-find-it/m-p/394839#M28541 <P>I would have really liked some apologies from some of my school classmates at reunions for bullying... that would have gone a long way to giving me closure on some of that stuff. You're lucky they had the balls to stand before you and say sorry, mine certainly didn't... friends are a problem for many people, they certainly were for me.</P> <P>How did you get on with people in your work world? Is it perhaps that you just fit in better with older folks? And is your hubby supportive? I know it's really hard when you have a child, they will look up to you and take their cues from you, so you understandably feel you have to be the best you can be for them.</P> Thu, 20 Sep 2018 09:58:51 GMT aegidius 2018-09-20T09:58:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-struggle-to-make-friends-and-get-people-to-like-me-i-find-it/m-p/394838#M28540 <P>I'm 30 and for as long as I can remember I have always struggled to make and keep friends. In high school there was a group of 20 of us, but I was the butt of all jokes, trusted no one and was made to feel small. So much that at my 10 yr reunion i had 3 of the 20 apologise for the way they treated me. The people i'm 'friends' with now I stumbled across at a pub crawl 10 yrs ago (I had gone to school with them) and even now I feel I still don't fit. Or when I think i've bonded with someone, I get 'dumped' for someone else. In all my jobs i've had, I either had a supervisory role or worked with people twice my age. I have no interests or hobbies. </P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">I recently had my first child and thought mum's group would be a fresh start, I am the youngest and they all already have mum friends outside of the group. But for some reason, we didn't get invited to one kid's party. I can't for the life of me figure out what I did to this mum that caused her to invite everyone else but us. It broke my heart and sent me into a downward spiral, because up until now my issues around this only affected me, but now it is also affecting my child. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">I don't know what to do, I feel like I can't win no matter what I do. I put myself out there and get shut down. I have no close friends, I trust no one except my husband. I can't figure out where I am going wrong or how to fix myself. I know I have some walls up in some aspects of my life, but try to put them down. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">I want to get out more with my child, but I work 4 days a week and struggle to find time to get out on that one week day off.</SPAN></P> Thu, 20 Sep 2018 02:31:16 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-struggle-to-make-friends-and-get-people-to-like-me-i-find-it/m-p/394838#M28540 Lilyem 2018-09-20T02:31:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-struggle-to-make-friends-and-get-people-to-like-me-i-find-it/m-p/394839#M28541 <P>I would have really liked some apologies from some of my school classmates at reunions for bullying... that would have gone a long way to giving me closure on some of that stuff. You're lucky they had the balls to stand before you and say sorry, mine certainly didn't... friends are a problem for many people, they certainly were for me.</P> <P>How did you get on with people in your work world? Is it perhaps that you just fit in better with older folks? And is your hubby supportive? I know it's really hard when you have a child, they will look up to you and take their cues from you, so you understandably feel you have to be the best you can be for them.</P> Thu, 20 Sep 2018 09:58:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-struggle-to-make-friends-and-get-people-to-like-me-i-find-it/m-p/394839#M28541 aegidius 2018-09-20T09:58:51Z