https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/seeking-advice/m-p/381804#M27047 <P>I have found on my partners phone that he has been commenting on other girls pictures but sexual comments and comments putting me down like my girl isn't like that with a sad face. Asking their names ect. I guess the line that was crossed for me when 1. the comments became sexual and 2. when he involved me in those comments. </P> <P>I'm so hurt and confused. We have been together 10years and never would I have thought he would say something of the things he has said. A few of the comments and so disrespectful not only to me but the women in the pictures. Its like I feel like hes cheated but not physically. 10 years and I feel like I don't know him. Im really really struggling with how to cope with it and I confronted him about it. He has said sorry but I guess if I hadn't seen them then he wouldn't have ever felt sorry or bad about what he was writing. Like I guess they are only sorry once they get caught. </P> <P>I feel like after 10 years im still getting to know who he is and I don't like it. Its so hard because I love him so much. I aware he hasn't physically done anything but I just feel sick that hes not only looking and desiring other women but hes also taking the next step of leaving a comment. </P> <P>I guess im asking how do I cope with this? Are all men like this? Am I over reacting? </P> Sat, 10 Nov 2018 01:13:16 GMT Peppa62 2018-11-10T01:13:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/seeking-advice/m-p/381804#M27047 <P>I have found on my partners phone that he has been commenting on other girls pictures but sexual comments and comments putting me down like my girl isn't like that with a sad face. Asking their names ect. I guess the line that was crossed for me when 1. the comments became sexual and 2. when he involved me in those comments. </P> <P>I'm so hurt and confused. We have been together 10years and never would I have thought he would say something of the things he has said. A few of the comments and so disrespectful not only to me but the women in the pictures. Its like I feel like hes cheated but not physically. 10 years and I feel like I don't know him. Im really really struggling with how to cope with it and I confronted him about it. He has said sorry but I guess if I hadn't seen them then he wouldn't have ever felt sorry or bad about what he was writing. Like I guess they are only sorry once they get caught. </P> <P>I feel like after 10 years im still getting to know who he is and I don't like it. Its so hard because I love him so much. I aware he hasn't physically done anything but I just feel sick that hes not only looking and desiring other women but hes also taking the next step of leaving a comment. </P> <P>I guess im asking how do I cope with this? Are all men like this? Am I over reacting? </P> Sat, 10 Nov 2018 01:13:16 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/seeking-advice/m-p/381804#M27047 Peppa62 2018-11-10T01:13:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/seeking-advice/m-p/381805#M27048 <P>Hi peppa</P> <P>i can kind of relate to you. I saw my ex send a heart and kiss to someone and then a couple of pictures. I saw these on the day he broke up with me. I don’t believe he cheated physically as they both live far away from each other but it still hurt. It’s called micro-cheating.</P> <P>i didn’t confront him at first. That was my mistake. But he told me it was nothing. I haven’t heard from him since. So I felt completely rejected all over again.</P> <P>how do I cope? We had broken up so that’s what made it easier for me. Just know that it isn’t you. Any behaviour he does is on him and a reflection on him. </P> <P>There is no way <SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;"></SPAN><SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">you overreacted. this is something I think about too. But, at the end of the day, you have boundaries in a relationship. You also have to think that it is disrespectful to you and your relationship.</SPAN></P> Sat, 10 Nov 2018 01:28:19 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/seeking-advice/m-p/381805#M27048 LeeA18 2018-11-10T01:28:19Z