https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/my-adult-life-feels-like-i-have-nothing-to-show-for-it-now/m-p/376445#M26392 <P>Hi.<BR /> Im 28. I feel like my adult life has just slipped away. I was with the same guy for the past 8 years and we recently went our separate ways. I didnt feel sad or upset when we came to an end because i had in my head felt like we ended much earlier and i didnt really mourn him at all.<BR /> Since him i meet a guy, i didnt really let him in and pushed him away. He wanted to be something but i pushed and when i was ready he said i had ruined it for him by pushing him away. I have never felt so rejected in my life. This one guy who has only had a small print in my life, barely 6 months and i felt like my whole heart had been pulled out and broken to pieces. He says im killing him and now some how i need to let go but its really hard.. <BR /> why is this breaking me ? is it a combination of all my pain rolled into one and hes pushing me off the edge?<BR /> i just dont' feel okay. i dont feel okay. <BR /> i feel like i could disappear and nobody would notice. </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Tue, 06 Nov 2018 02:31:10 GMT Ellecat-_- 2018-11-06T02:31:10Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/my-adult-life-feels-like-i-have-nothing-to-show-for-it-now/m-p/376445#M26392 <P>Hi.<BR /> Im 28. I feel like my adult life has just slipped away. I was with the same guy for the past 8 years and we recently went our separate ways. I didnt feel sad or upset when we came to an end because i had in my head felt like we ended much earlier and i didnt really mourn him at all.<BR /> Since him i meet a guy, i didnt really let him in and pushed him away. He wanted to be something but i pushed and when i was ready he said i had ruined it for him by pushing him away. I have never felt so rejected in my life. This one guy who has only had a small print in my life, barely 6 months and i felt like my whole heart had been pulled out and broken to pieces. He says im killing him and now some how i need to let go but its really hard.. <BR /> why is this breaking me ? is it a combination of all my pain rolled into one and hes pushing me off the edge?<BR /> i just dont' feel okay. i dont feel okay. <BR /> i feel like i could disappear and nobody would notice. </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Tue, 06 Nov 2018 02:31:10 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/my-adult-life-feels-like-i-have-nothing-to-show-for-it-now/m-p/376445#M26392 Ellecat-_- 2018-11-06T02:31:10Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/my-adult-life-feels-like-i-have-nothing-to-show-for-it-now/m-p/376446#M26393 <P>Hello Ellecat!</P> <P>There would be many people that would notice if you disappeared....seriously. You are <EM>strong</EM> by posting about the pain you are going through. </P> <P>Can I ask if you have had allowed time to pass after your partner of 8 years? This is a long relationship and we need time to heal afterwards....as you know. After an eight year relationship I would be as heartbroken as you are after being rejected</P> <P><STRONG>It is okay not to feel okay Ellecat</STRONG>....<EM>This would be a difficult time for you</EM>. There is no rush where relationships are concerned. </P> <P>The forums are a Safe and judgement free place for you to post Ellecat. Your privacy and well being are paramount to the Beyond Blue Forums</P> <P>I really hope you can post back when its convenient for you. There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":slightly_smiling_face:">🙂</span></P> <P>my kind thoughts</P> <P>Paul</P> Tue, 06 Nov 2018 18:52:02 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/my-adult-life-feels-like-i-have-nothing-to-show-for-it-now/m-p/376446#M26393 blondguy 2018-11-06T18:52:02Z