https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/newby-wanting-to-shake-narcissism/m-p/367579#M25141 <P>welcome to this forum .</P> <P>may I ask exactly what it is that you do that is Narcisstic .? Listing some examples would help I think . </P> <P>you know just being aware of it ...is a monumental step . Usually narcissistics are in too deep to admit there is an issue . </P> <P>Im not narcissistic but I know someone that is ...an extreme one ...and this person has a complete disregard of anyone else but herself . And sees the world relvolving around them and them alone . Quite scary really .and she is totally oblivious that is the case .</P> <P>from your post ...you don’t sound narcisstic ...lol ...u have empathy for your wife .</P> <P>Can I ask you ...if you think your narcissism stems from some form of insecurity ?</P> <P>usually that is the case .</P> <P>but there is plenty of information to curb it ...but I believe you have taken a very positive step coming to this forum .</P> <P>i think definitely tell your wife you are making positive steps to ensure she understands and supports you .</P> <P> Keep writing ...hope to hear from you soon </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Sun, 02 Sep 2018 06:00:59 GMT IsaJett 2018-09-02T06:00:59Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/newby-wanting-to-shake-narcissism/m-p/367578#M25140 <P>Gday all,</P> <P> I am mid 40's and have been in a relationship for four years. I have been marked as narcissistic and know that i am now that i have been told and read up on symptoms. </P> <P> I am trying to get away from being narcissistic but i always have a setback every couple of weeks that, now after 4 years in my current relationship I am starting to wonder if i can shake the stigma. </P> <P> Growing up I have not known any other way. My mother was a huge influence on me and i chose to surround myself with other narcs in the past 30 year's. From so called friends to bosses. I have little contact with my mother now (my own choice) to try and break the cycle. It has worked a bit but I still and tripping over and my wfe is at wits end...</P> <P> I don't want to loose her but am stuck trying to shake this demon. Are there any others out there that have shaken the narcissism? </P> <P> </P> <P> Thank you for reading. </P> Sun, 02 Sep 2018 03:46:00 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/newby-wanting-to-shake-narcissism/m-p/367578#M25140 Lost_traveler 2018-09-02T03:46:00Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/newby-wanting-to-shake-narcissism/m-p/367579#M25141 <P>welcome to this forum .</P> <P>may I ask exactly what it is that you do that is Narcisstic .? Listing some examples would help I think . </P> <P>you know just being aware of it ...is a monumental step . Usually narcissistics are in too deep to admit there is an issue . </P> <P>Im not narcissistic but I know someone that is ...an extreme one ...and this person has a complete disregard of anyone else but herself . And sees the world relvolving around them and them alone . Quite scary really .and she is totally oblivious that is the case .</P> <P>from your post ...you don’t sound narcisstic ...lol ...u have empathy for your wife .</P> <P>Can I ask you ...if you think your narcissism stems from some form of insecurity ?</P> <P>usually that is the case .</P> <P>but there is plenty of information to curb it ...but I believe you have taken a very positive step coming to this forum .</P> <P>i think definitely tell your wife you are making positive steps to ensure she understands and supports you .</P> <P> Keep writing ...hope to hear from you soon </P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Sun, 02 Sep 2018 06:00:59 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/newby-wanting-to-shake-narcissism/m-p/367579#M25141 IsaJett 2018-09-02T06:00:59Z