https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350056#M22877 <P>Hi Brittzx</P> <P>Welcome to our forums. </P> <P>I am so sorry to read what is going on with you. To answer your questions no, I don't think your partner has thought too much about your and your son and the pain it has inflicted. If he had thought about it then I don't think the situation would have occurred. </P> <P>Even though you say 'why me' at least this is happening now before your son remembers it. My friend is going through a similar situation with her little girl and ex (who too has moved in with the person he was cheating with) and it is a horrible and sad time but it will get better and your son will remember the good mum he has. </P> <P>Have you thought about seeing a counsellor to learn steps to move forward? </P> <P>Blue Jane</P> Fri, 30 Jun 2017 11:09:59 GMT Blue_Jane 2017-06-30T11:09:59Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350054#M22875 <SPAN style="font-family: FFDINWebItalic, sans-serif;">My ex met a girl while working fifo work when our son was 2 months old he kept it a secret until the Jo. Was over and be couldn't keep it a secret anymore he kicked us out of the family home and had her move in. He left me broken alone confused with nothing of our life left. I begged for months not to leave but he had no care. A few months later when he could see I was managing he wanted us back. I really wanted my family together but to much damage was done. I sit here and wonder to myself every day and night why me? Does he ever think about how he ruined my life and my 1 shot at having a family that wasnt separated and a marriage with my sons father. Why did he want to cause that much pain for me?</SPAN> Thu, 29 Jun 2017 18:57:00 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350054#M22875 Brittzx 2017-06-29T18:57:00Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350055#M22876 hello <G class="gr_ gr_7 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del multiReplace" id="7" data-gr-id="7">Brittzx</G>, I realise you want the family to be joined back together, but unfortunately your partner doesn't give a hoot about how you feel, and only wants you back when you are feeling better, that's not how <G class="gr_ gr_8 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Grammar multiReplace" id="8" data-gr-id="8">a r/ship</G> should be like, and it's only going to continue treating you like a person on a roulette wheel, choose you when he wants you and then discard you when he something to choose from.<BR /> I'm sorry but you should leave him and find someone who shows you the love and respect you deserve. Geoff. Thu, 29 Jun 2017 19:20:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350055#M22876 geoff 2017-06-29T19:20:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350056#M22877 <P>Hi Brittzx</P> <P>Welcome to our forums. </P> <P>I am so sorry to read what is going on with you. To answer your questions no, I don't think your partner has thought too much about your and your son and the pain it has inflicted. If he had thought about it then I don't think the situation would have occurred. </P> <P>Even though you say 'why me' at least this is happening now before your son remembers it. My friend is going through a similar situation with her little girl and ex (who too has moved in with the person he was cheating with) and it is a horrible and sad time but it will get better and your son will remember the good mum he has. </P> <P>Have you thought about seeing a counsellor to learn steps to move forward? </P> <P>Blue Jane</P> Fri, 30 Jun 2017 11:09:59 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/why-me/m-p/350056#M22877 Blue_Jane 2017-06-30T11:09:59Z