https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293386#M19374 hi, thanks for this we must have posted at the same time.<BR /> <G class="gr_ gr_8 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Punctuation only-ins replaceWithoutSep" id="8" data-gr-id="8">Well</G> what she is doing wouldn't be acceptable if it was my wife and I would certainly condone it, plus you may not know all the details and that's also what I would be concerned about.<BR /> Is she <G class="gr_ gr_13 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling multiReplace" id="13" data-gr-id="13">self medicating</G> on alcohol because she's unhappy because it seems to be that way, but she has lost all responsibility for you and your seven children. Geoff. Wed, 12 Jul 2017 20:04:01 GMT geoff 2017-07-12T20:04:01Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293383#M19371 been kicked out because my wife says I treat her like a ten year old, I don't. Wed, 12 Jul 2017 19:11:41 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293383#M19371 douglaswynne 2017-07-12T19:11:41Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293384#M19372 Sorry to continue, my wife says I have mentally abused her, not once have argued or said vindictive remarks, after 22 years. She goes to the pub on her while I'm at work, dances with other men, I give her a compliment and say that I have to say that, she sends texts to a so called male friend like " morning sweet stuff" and "I'm to drunk for you now ". Ring him up to pick her up while he's in my house. We have seven children all our own. So I went and told him to back off, he is my cousin, filled her head with crap , quote he makes me laugh," and we just talk , but goes around to his work for a hug cause she is sad and crying, I just don't get it Wed, 12 Jul 2017 19:43:26 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293384#M19372 douglaswynne 2017-07-12T19:43:26Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293385#M19373 hello <G class="gr_ gr_6 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling ins-del multiReplace" id="6" data-gr-id="6">Douglaswynne</G>, I'm sorry to hear this and with little information, there could be a couple of reasons, and please I mean no harm by mentioning any of this, either one of you or even both of you could be suffering from depression and finding life pretty tough, so please can you get back to us, so then we can help you. Geoff. Wed, 12 Jul 2017 19:52:38 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293385#M19373 geoff 2017-07-12T19:52:38Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293386#M19374 hi, thanks for this we must have posted at the same time.<BR /> <G class="gr_ gr_8 gr-alert gr_gramm gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim Punctuation only-ins replaceWithoutSep" id="8" data-gr-id="8">Well</G> what she is doing wouldn't be acceptable if it was my wife and I would certainly condone it, plus you may not know all the details and that's also what I would be concerned about.<BR /> Is she <G class="gr_ gr_13 gr-alert gr_spell gr_inline_cards gr_run_anim ContextualSpelling multiReplace" id="13" data-gr-id="13">self medicating</G> on alcohol because she's unhappy because it seems to be that way, but she has lost all responsibility for you and your seven children. Geoff. Wed, 12 Jul 2017 20:04:01 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/lost-and-bewildered/m-p/293386#M19374 geoff 2017-07-12T20:04:01Z