https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/please-help-i-feel-so-trapped/m-p/277471#M18391 <P>Hi Ahsatankilleen,</P> <P>Welcome to the forums. Feeling trapped in any situation is distressing. Even more so when it involves another person. My heart goes out to you.</P> <P>You say you can't break up with him. The question is can you see yourself settling for more of the same in years to come ? The trouble is painful situations don't usually resolve themselves without difficult decisions being made. I am concerned by your feelings of being destroyed. Sometimes when we can't see a way out, it means space must be cleared so exit can be made. Nothing positive can come out of staying in a negative situation that cannot be changed. </P> <P>Do you feel this relationship can be improved ?</P> <P>Is there something other than his mental illness that makes it so toxic ? </P> <P>Why is work horrible ?</P> <P>Sorry about the questions. I hope you will continue to talk with us so that we can have a clearer idea about this situation. The more we get to know you, the better we can help...which is what we would like to do.</P> <P>Here for you.</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Sun, 16 Apr 2017 04:00:36 GMT Starwolf 2017-04-16T04:00:36Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/please-help-i-feel-so-trapped/m-p/277470#M18390 <P>I just need someone out of this situation to talk too. It's a long story but essentially i am living with a partner that I can't emotionally give myself too anymore. He came from overseas to be with me and I feel so trapped and that I can't break up with him, I don't want to hurt him. I can't hurt him again this will be the second time in 6 months I would have broken up with him. He has bad anxiety and depression and I constantly feel his stress, it destroys me. I just want some kind of calm place to be. Work is horrible and I can only use it as a safe haven for so long without him getting upset that im not home. I <SPAN style="font-size: inherit; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">can't see a way out. This is only a quarter of the story as well. I just don't know if I should post everything here. I'm starting to feel like the only way out isn't a good one.</SPAN></P> Sat, 15 Apr 2017 23:33:55 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/please-help-i-feel-so-trapped/m-p/277470#M18390 Ahsatan 2017-04-15T23:33:55Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/please-help-i-feel-so-trapped/m-p/277471#M18391 <P>Hi Ahsatankilleen,</P> <P>Welcome to the forums. Feeling trapped in any situation is distressing. Even more so when it involves another person. My heart goes out to you.</P> <P>You say you can't break up with him. The question is can you see yourself settling for more of the same in years to come ? The trouble is painful situations don't usually resolve themselves without difficult decisions being made. I am concerned by your feelings of being destroyed. Sometimes when we can't see a way out, it means space must be cleared so exit can be made. Nothing positive can come out of staying in a negative situation that cannot be changed. </P> <P>Do you feel this relationship can be improved ?</P> <P>Is there something other than his mental illness that makes it so toxic ? </P> <P>Why is work horrible ?</P> <P>Sorry about the questions. I hope you will continue to talk with us so that we can have a clearer idea about this situation. The more we get to know you, the better we can help...which is what we would like to do.</P> <P>Here for you.</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Sun, 16 Apr 2017 04:00:36 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/please-help-i-feel-so-trapped/m-p/277471#M18391 Starwolf 2017-04-16T04:00:36Z