https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258180#M16799 <P>Hi Frankie. If I can ask without upsetting you too much, you don't live together, you said it was a long distance relationship (I'm in one too). How did you 'catch' him, was it fb? The hardest part of any relationship is building total trust. You need to 'take the bull by the horns' and ask him straight if he is in a relationship with you or if he wants to 'play'. Clarification of where you are in a relationship whether it's direct or online/long distance is important. I suggest you ask him exactly what is happening, make sure he knows exactly what you're asking. His answer may hurt you, but sometimes the truth is better than assumptions.</P> <P>Lynda</P> Tue, 03 Jan 2017 01:24:16 GMT pipsy 2017-01-03T01:24:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258177#M16796 I caught my partner chatting to other girls online. We do t live together and have a long distance relationship. I'm having trouble forgiving and forgetting and moving forward. I feel like it's consuming me. Any advice? Mon, 02 Jan 2017 23:36:11 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258177#M16796 Frankie79 2017-01-02T23:36:11Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258178#M16797 <P>Hi Frankie79</P> <P>Welcome and good on you for having the strength to post too!</P> <P>Its upsetting when we find a partner veering off course and talking to other people especially when we feel like we are together....even long distance.</P> <P>If I may ask is your partner just 'talking' or is it more 'intimate' talking?</P> <P>Trust is important...even in a long distance relationship.</P> <P>It may be difficult to ascertain, but try to make sure your partner has your best intentions at heart.</P> <P>there are many super kind people that can be here for you Frankie. Let us know how you go.</P> <P>my kind thoughts</P> <P>Paul</P> Mon, 02 Jan 2017 23:48:04 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258178#M16797 blondguy 2017-01-02T23:48:04Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258179#M16798 Hi. Thank you. It was intimate talking on one occasion and then I found out he was on tinder. Once the conversation got too far he would stop. I feel like the intent was there. He says it's an attention thing Tue, 03 Jan 2017 00:02:13 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258179#M16798 Frankie79 2017-01-03T00:02:13Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258180#M16799 <P>Hi Frankie. If I can ask without upsetting you too much, you don't live together, you said it was a long distance relationship (I'm in one too). How did you 'catch' him, was it fb? The hardest part of any relationship is building total trust. You need to 'take the bull by the horns' and ask him straight if he is in a relationship with you or if he wants to 'play'. Clarification of where you are in a relationship whether it's direct or online/long distance is important. I suggest you ask him exactly what is happening, make sure he knows exactly what you're asking. His answer may hurt you, but sometimes the truth is better than assumptions.</P> <P>Lynda</P> Tue, 03 Jan 2017 01:24:16 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258180#M16799 pipsy 2017-01-03T01:24:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258181#M16800 <P>No worries Frankie and thanks for replying too!</P> <P>Thankyou for sharing. Being intimate is in itself intent...not an attention thing. You know better than I do but from what you have written it appears he has crossed the line. (with all respect of course)</P> <P>great to have you on the forums Frankie, you are more than welcome to stick around if you choose to do so <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":slightly_smiling_face:">🙂</span></P> <P>kind thoughts</P> <P>Paulx</P> Tue, 03 Jan 2017 01:34:19 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/how-to-forgive-and-move-forward/m-p/258181#M16800 blondguy 2017-01-03T01:34:19Z