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redgirl-blackdog — Sun, 19 Jun 2016 12:46:41 GMT

Well I suppose I didn't expect anything different, so that's what I got. Yesterday was my birthday. My boys made me gorgeous cards &helped me make a cake for us & that was pretty much it. I've shared my birthday with my late dad for 45 out of my 47 years, so it was never just my day. I've never had a party just for me. I have now realised the couple of (sort of) friends I thought I had, I haven't. Just makes me feel pretty shitty that no one cares. at least Jack-the-dog sits with me when I cry

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Guest_1055 — Sun, 19 Jun 2016 13:26:58 GMT

Hi Red girl

I care about you, so that is why I am going to sing happy birthday to you. I hope this is a little different for you now this year.

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Hey I am glad you have some boys that made you some gorgeous cards. That is way precious.

In kindness

Shell xx

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white knight — Sun, 19 Jun 2016 13:42:46 GMT

Hi red girl

I was raised with high expectations for certain dates.

If I missed a birthday I'd be criticised. If I couldn't afford s mothers day gift I was condemned. You get the picture.

So one day I realised that these special days, anniversaries as well are merely man made. They simply reflect the position of the earth at the same time in its orbit.

Real special days are when friends share a shoulder or a private chat or even when someone says "I love you" .

Our feeling of rejection is not a reflection of love. You are loved ....but they forgot your birthday.

I'd only worry when they forgot my name...

Tony WK

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pipsy — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 03:18:01 GMT

Hi redgirl_blackdog. I think it was lovely of your boys to remember. I'd rather have time with my kids to reflect and look back on happy times we shared, than worry about who else remembers or not. My ex in-laws used to send me 'scratchies' every year. I do not like or appreciate scratchies, to me they're a waste of money. I too send you birthday greetings, enjoy your cake. When you think about kids and the fact that they often get wrapped up in their own world, it's nice to think that they remembered you. Tony's 100% right about your friends too, it was probably an oversight. Perhaps they thought they sent you something.

Lynda

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Lazykh — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 09:41:49 GMT

Mmmm, pets are so good for making you feel better. I'm not convinced any human can do what an animal can when it comes to cheering up or at least feeling less bad... I feel sorry for those who don't have a pet to share it with.

Lazykh

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redgirl-blackdog — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 11:37:57 GMT

thank you Shell

Carey

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redgirl-blackdog — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 11:46:59 GMT

thank you too Lynda, the cake was delicious. My boys only remembered because it was written on the calendar. Unfortunately Tony is mistaken, they were only acquaintances, who don't care & I know because they don't know my birthdate & don't know my name or how to spell it. Thanks for your wishes, Carey

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redgirl-blackdog — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 11:55:10 GMT

Sorry Tony, one has to have friends for them to know your name then forget your birthday... I was raised with the same type of expectations, but it would still be nice to be recognized for another year on this earth, without prompting. Thanks for your response tho, Carey

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redgirl-blackdog — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 12:04:22 GMT

Hi Lazykh, yes I agree about pets, my dog does the whole body wag, not just his tail, and I'm sure he tries to talk to me in his own strange way. Funny thing, he's a black lab. Not sure if irony is the right word... Carey

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geoff — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 20:23:12 GMT

dear Carey, I used to eat most of the cake mixture and Mum always wondered why it never raised up, until one day she caught me, the mixture I love more than the cake, but Carey, Many Happy returns to you from me and all of us.
What flavour cake was it with hundreds and thousands I'm sure. Geoff.

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redgirl-blackdog — Wed, 22 Jun 2016 13:48:02 GMT

Thankyou Geoff & everyone. Even tho I don't know you all, in a way, it's sorta helps. It was chocolate cake & choc frosting, no 100's & 1000's cause my boys don't like them. My daughter put a message thing on my face book & even people I thought I knew & knew me, responded on her page not mine, and yes they spelt my name wrong.

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redgirl-blackdog — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 04:01:14 GMT

Reading back over my posts, it sounds like I'm a spoilt whinging so & so because I didn't get lots of good wishes or presents or a party, but that's not me. I know life goes on & people go different ways, but my birthday is always near the local show weekend so it was when everyone came to town & we all made a day of it, another 2 mates had birthdays around the same time so it turned into a fun w/e. I sent texts to those people because they didn't answer home phones, but like I said at first, maybe I was expecting too much to get anything back. I'm just having a little vent now because I saw an "acquaintance" today & they mentioned a post on my daughter's Facebook page & still didn't say anything to me about belated birthday greetings. I just must be expecting too much of people because I keep getting disappointed. Sorry for another whinge about birthdays 😞

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pipsy — Fri, 24 Jun 2016 07:08:51 GMT

hi redgirl-blackdog. No need to apologize, we all like to be remembered on birthdays. It hurts like Hell when people don't acknowledge, even when they know or are told, and still don't acknowledge. Are you the sort of person who remembers everyone else for birthdays, that would make it harder. Crying would be a release of the pain you feel and totally understandable. You are human with feelings and emotions and you're feeling as though you've been forgotten. Unfortunately, people can be cruel and selfish and accepting this is hard. I therefor take this opportunity of re-sending you special greetings and hope this can somehow make up.

Lynda