https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/obsession/m-p/183776#M12910 <P>Hello,</P> <P>Hoping to get tips with this from anyone who suffers from the same thing.</P> <P>So one of my things is I get unhealthily obsessed with people. I am not exaggerating when I say I will want to marry someone within minutes of chatting to them if I find something I like about them, no matter how small. And because it's obviously not reciprocated, I freak out when I start feeling like they don't like me as much, which happens to be all the time (again, for obvious reasons - we've only been talking for 10 minutes). Thankfully I have enough self control -not- to actually stalk them in person and tell them everything, but the urge is very much there.</P> <P>I've raised this previously with my psych, and she wanted me to observe my own behaviour while dating. There was one girl with whom I thought I was actually controlling it pretty well. But then with this new person, she basically pointed it out to me and I hadn't even recognised just how much I'd become obsessed already. So that was a bit annoying.</P> <P>So yeah, I'd love to hear from people who do the same and what you do to control it <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":slightly_smiling_face:">🙂</span> Doing my usual hobbies including exercise doesn't seem to work because it doesn't take my mind off enough. And yes, I do dream about them too which makes it even more confusing because I start confusing reality and dream.</P> <P>James</P> Thu, 08 Dec 2016 02:49:27 GMT james1 2016-12-08T02:49:27Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/obsession/m-p/183776#M12910 <P>Hello,</P> <P>Hoping to get tips with this from anyone who suffers from the same thing.</P> <P>So one of my things is I get unhealthily obsessed with people. I am not exaggerating when I say I will want to marry someone within minutes of chatting to them if I find something I like about them, no matter how small. And because it's obviously not reciprocated, I freak out when I start feeling like they don't like me as much, which happens to be all the time (again, for obvious reasons - we've only been talking for 10 minutes). Thankfully I have enough self control -not- to actually stalk them in person and tell them everything, but the urge is very much there.</P> <P>I've raised this previously with my psych, and she wanted me to observe my own behaviour while dating. There was one girl with whom I thought I was actually controlling it pretty well. But then with this new person, she basically pointed it out to me and I hadn't even recognised just how much I'd become obsessed already. So that was a bit annoying.</P> <P>So yeah, I'd love to hear from people who do the same and what you do to control it <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":slightly_smiling_face:">🙂</span> Doing my usual hobbies including exercise doesn't seem to work because it doesn't take my mind off enough. And yes, I do dream about them too which makes it even more confusing because I start confusing reality and dream.</P> <P>James</P> Thu, 08 Dec 2016 02:49:27 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/obsession/m-p/183776#M12910 james1 2016-12-08T02:49:27Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/obsession/m-p/183777#M12911 <P>Hi James,</P> <P>I find that I am very similar in that if I like someone I can't help but picture the future and get way too ahead of myself... then end up very upset when nothing works out the way I hoped. It is much easier said than done, but if possible, try to just enjoy the moment, and keep your thoughts centered around what is happening now... If I ever find a way to master this skill myself I will be sure to let you know... I still find it very difficult as my mind basically explores every possible option. Then I get anxiety about the bad options even though they may not even happen, and depressed when the good options fade away.</P> <P> Good luck xo</P> Thu, 08 Dec 2016 03:22:25 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/obsession/m-p/183777#M12911 Boo1986 2016-12-08T03:22:25Z