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Ideas for Xmas on my own

amamas — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 01:44:19 GMT

So the big day one week away.

My psych is in my head plan, plan, plan.

So, I've been looking at what I want to do on this very triggering day.

I want to be by myself.

I want to listen to xmas carols by candlelight on xmas eve. Wake up xmas morning have a yummy breakfast with the mandatory delicious coffee (from Stomp for any Brissie coffee lovers), watch a DVD, read a book, do some painting, snack on a well presented very tasty cheese platter and just chill out hanging with myself all day.

Does this sound crazy to any readers? To me it sounds marvellous. I know there is the chance that my mood may drop to -1000 but it will probably go there anyway if I do the norm and hang with family.

I've discussed this with my psych and advice seems to be balance, time with family and self.

I don't know, am I deluding myself into believing I can have a pretty good day hanging with me?

I feel like being around people makes my anxiety and depression so much worse so why not on xmas day give myself the gift of being with me, myself and I?

Any advice, ideas, thoughts much appreciated!

Thanks guys

Cheers Amamas

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Stephen123 — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 02:52:01 GMT

Hi Amamas, I think you,ve just discovered the perfect Christmas! Enjoy!

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joey — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:47:13 GMT

Just do it! I love Christmas - the only thing I hate is other peoples expectations. They seem upset if I am not spending it with family. And then if not with friends well that's so sad. But it's not sad. So what if I enjoy sitting on my own and watching the lights on my Christmas tree. I will still bake a roast turkey - again people are surprised that I would bother just for me. I think I am the one comfortable with myself and it's great to do nice things for yourself so who cares, don't let other peoples judgements affect you. Do what feels right. Joey

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Beetle — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 07:57:05 GMT

HI Amamas

work half of chrismas and have half the days off. I need some getting together on Christmas otherwise I WILL have a crisis. I can be by myself all other times but I could not do it over x-mas. So I have stuff on x-mas eve and a party x-mas day. I work after that.Good on you planning to be by yourself. I admire you for that. I know myself and know I could not do it. if I I see neighbors and others getting visitors or going places and if I am by myself at home the black dog comes up .Its probably silly but I cant help it.So yeah good on ya amamas-go for it 🙂

Beetle

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Pixie15 — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 10:54:41 GMT

Hi, If you think its right for you do it. But I can hear the clock slowly ticking away the time. I'd be inclined to spend at least some of it sharing a meal and a gift or ignore it completely. Cheers.

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geoff — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:00:04 GMT

dear Amamas, lovely, doesn't that sound to be perfect.

For myself this year I will be doing exactly the same as you, as my youngest lives 9 hours away from me, and he has lost his licence for being .06, so unfortunately I won't see him, and my other son, wife and grand daughter I saw last week end because his boss hasn't told any of the staff whether or not they can have xmas off, which is really unfair for all of them, and he works night shift, so xmas day he will need to sleep.

I will miss seeing all of them, but Marcie enjoyed playing with the toys I gave her, and at the age of almost 2 every toy is great.

All the invisible invitations that I have been offered by 'friends' must have been caught up in the mail, but I wouldn't go anyway, so it's puppie and me.

Amamas, if your mood does drop to 1000, then just think what it would be like if had to go to other functions.

If I remember I will speak to you on xmas day, but I may forget, but enjoy your day all by yourself, oh, peace and quite, beautiful. L Geoff. x

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amamas — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 23:48:20 GMT

Hey Geoff

Shame you can't be with your boys!

You know what I find so cute about kids Marcie's age. You can spend ages buying what you think is just the right gift and they'll be beside themselves with joy over the box it came in. It cracks me up soooo much!! I'm glad you got to spend some time with her - she sounds really cute!

I'm pretty sure I'm going for the alone time. I do wish I had a furry friend to hang with though.

Take care, big hugs!

Amamas

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amamas — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 23:52:51 GMT

Hi guys

Thanks heaps for all your replies and insights! You've all helped me to see clearer. I am going to give this to myself.

It's true I was finding it hard because of what others would think but lets face it they think I'm CRAZY anyway.

I get what some of you mention about spending some time with others but honestly it brings me down. I've decided to work on my social issues next year.

Thanks again!

Cheers Amamas

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Jo3 — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 23:57:04 GMT

Hey Geoff,

Thinking of you at Christmas time. It's so tough when your boys are far away and you can't see them. At least you got to see your son and wife and grand daughter last week. She must bring you lots of joy and happiness. I can't wait to be a grandma one day.

I hope you have a nice Christmas Day. Isn't it a shame we all can't get together as our "online friends". Wouldn't that be fantastic.

Anyway, pls take care, and I'll remember to chat to you on Christmas Day.

Jo x

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Jo3 — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 23:59:00 GMT

Hey Amamas

I will be thinking of you on Christmas Day. And part of me will be jealous!!!

My kids will be home with hubby and I and that's it - no other family or parents.

But i will treasure the time I have with my kids now because one day they will all leave home and it will be different.

I'm sure by the afternoon though, I wish I was you and be on my own!!!!

Take care, I'm sending you my christmas wishes

Jo xx

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amamas — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 05:33:26 GMT

Hey Jo

Thanks heaps I'll be thinking of you and your family.

I hope you all have a wonderful day together!

Big hugs and xmas wishes to you!

Cheers Amamas

PS I'll definitely be on here so we'll be able to have a catch up on the day (and no doubt before!)

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Neil_1 — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:23:02 GMT

Hi Amamas

Great idea that you’ve come up with and I’m glad that you’re going to run with it. That will be the BEST present of all … oh oh and don’t forget the day before to go and get your DVD to watch … but hang on, while out, you should possibly get two and make it a mini marathon!

It’s still a few sleeps away yet, and I’m sure we’ll be in touch before then anyway … but that’s so good that you’re doing what you feel best for you.

A little Seinfeld sign off here … when Elaine made a toast at a work function:

“Here’s to those who wish us well, And those who don’t, can go to hell”

Cheers

Neil

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amamas — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 02:27:32 GMT

Hey Neil

Rock on! I'm a bit of a Seinfeld fan myself. I used to live in Perth and they had this crazy competition in the middle of the city where the competitors had to watch the final episode of Seinfield non stop until there was only one remaining. I'll never forget those poor guys they looked exhausted and filthy! I can't remember how long they lasted.

What are your plans for xmas?

Cheers Amamas

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Neil_1 — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 02:57:32 GMT

Wow, I would love to have participated in that … my daughter (13yo) is amazed when we watch the different episodes of a night when they’re on Fox … when I can literally quote what they’re about to say at different times.

Christmas will be a quiet one, just with my partner and our two kids (son 15yo – who we hardly ever see … he’s a hibernator in his room) and daughter (mentioned above).

Then a couple of days after Christmas, we then do my family thing … travel 3 hours to go see my Mum and my eldest bro and his family … with his son, recently producing another member to the family, making me a ‘great Uncle’ for the 2nd time. I kept telling my nephew that I was great … and it’s now true … twice over.

How about you with regard to next Wednesday, the 25th of December?

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withlove14344 — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 03:19:04 GMT

Hi Amamas, I believe you deserve it! I'm sure your family can understand. Merry Christmas!

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amamas — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 01:08:11 GMT

Thanks withlove

Merry Christmas to you to!

What are your plans?

Xmas hugs, Amamas

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amamas — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 01:13:19 GMT

Hey Neil

Sounds as though you've got a lovely day planned!

Have I told you I love your profile pic? It reminds me of angel wings. I truly believe that healing is possible and when that day comes it'll feel like flying. What does your pic mean to you?

Well I'm pretty much going with my original plans for xmas. I'm starting to look forward to it. It's quite funny as I'm a real pacifist and yet every couple of years I love watching the Rambos. Strange I know but I've got them out, not sure if they'll be for xmas day but definitely having a Rambo marathon soon.

Cheers Amamas

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Neil_1 — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 04:03:21 GMT

Hi Amamas

Oh my gosh ... having a Rambo-athon ... call me bizarre, weird or hmmmm, I'm not sure (although I have heard worse!:) but I have the complete box set of all the Rambo movies. 😞 Yes, sad I know.

Um, no, you haven't told me that you love my profile pic ... but now you have. 🙂 🙂

What does my pic mean to me? Excellent question and I'm not sure if I can get away with the answer, but all I will say is that it represents my surname. 🙂

Cheers

Neil

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amamas — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 04:59:11 GMT

Hey Neil

I so have to follow your wisdom and buy myself that boxed set. It's getting harder and harder to rent them. Today the chick at the dvd store and I spent ages looking for part one until I suddenly remembered that it'll be filed under F for First Blood, not R as I was thinking. Got there in the end but how cool for you! Whenever you have Rambo cravings just go to your little boxed set.

I couldn't wait already watched First Blood. What amazes me so much about that movie is how well it can tap into my emotions. It doesn't seem to matter how many times I watch it it always brings something different up. This time I was bawling at the end.

Damn good movie!

Cheers Amamas

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angelscry — Sun, 22 Dec 2013 01:49:41 GMT

I would love to have a family to spend Christmas with. I'm 29, have spent every Christmas alone since 12 years old. Every year ithink it will be my last.