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Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Ggrand — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 10:15:25 GMT

Hi everyone..

Their are days when just getting out of bed is a huge achievement...Other days we can achieve things like washing up the dishes or clothes, sweeping the floors, mopping the floors..very mundane and automatic robot like chores for the mentally well...They do these chores without even thinking about them...for people struggling with their mental health..these are huge tasks...

Very often I’ll get my vacuum cleaner out to vacuum ...then it will sit their for days, me looking at it, walking over it...until I can get motivated enough to vacuum..after I do find the motivation to vacuum...I am pleased with myself...
Right now I have a small foot cycling peddle machine, sitting on my front veranda..I got it out last week..to start exercising..it’s still their, I’m still looking at it...My thoughts each night is I’ll use it for a few minutes tomorrow..

My car hasn’t been washed getting close to a year now I think...Today I did managed to wash it....and discovered that it has a nice shine on it.....I did it...I achieved something positive today..which made me feel better in myself...

Have you achieved a little something today...and how did it make you feel...If you want to share that achievement it might make other people a bit more motivated to achieve something they need/want to do..

Looking forward to hearing about your achievement....and how it made you feel..

Little steps and achievements can lead to bigger steps..and bigger achievements...

My kindest and most caring thoughts...everyone.
Grandy...

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1643 — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 11:02:28 GMT

Hi Grandy

Nice thread!

Made me think of my own situation. My car is also very dirty and I don't know how to wash it myself... I live in an apartment with only a hose in the garden and I'm not even sure how I'd manage it.
Today when i went to the service station for petrol I used the portable wipers and quickly wiped down parts of it. I felt good about that. It made such a minimal difference, but at least I felt empowered that I'm doing something small to make my life better (and shinier)

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

amberlite — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 11:33:34 GMT

nice nice lovely really lovely post, reading it made me smile, which is a massive achievement, thank you for supportive and understanding words you peeps it amazing.

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1584 — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 13:37:21 GMT

Don't like using car washes sleepy or ?

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1643 — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 13:41:36 GMT

it scares me a little bit for some reason....

i used to wash my car at home when i lived with my parents and then my flate mate and i did it together. i've never taken it to a car wash. I'm scared of it.

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Ggrand — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 00:06:26 GMT

Hi Everyone..

Sleepy like you I am also scared of car washes and wouldn’t even know how to use one..plus I think they cost $s which I don’t have...

I think that’s a brilliant idea to use the front screen blades...😂...

I haven’t done it as yet..but today I’m going to try and clean the inside of my car....

Hope everyone has a nice day today...

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

amberlite — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 00:22:23 GMT

Hi peeps my old dog Moby loves the car wash it's like he gets really excited and looks in all directions but he does lick the inside windows cause the foam looks so yummy to him. Have a good one.

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1643 — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 03:56:27 GMT

hi all,

yes - why are they so scary grandy?! Yay for window wipes at the gas station....

Today I handed in an ipad i found on the street to the police station. It was a bit embarrassing but I asked them if the person doesn't want it i I could keep it -
The woman was so sweet and said absolutely and thats how they do it - and if they don't want it they'll call me. Probably they do want it which was fine but it was awkward to ask so i'm proud i did 🙂

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Ggrand — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 04:38:37 GMT

Hi everyone..

Sleepy I am scared of them..because I’ve never used them...I know it’s a silly reason..plus all those brushes..knowing my luck..it would break down while I’m in the middle of it and I’ll get stuck their....

Today I vacuumed sand armour oiled the inside of my car..woohoo it looks shiny inside and out...and I feel pleased with myself for completing a job....doesn’t matter how long it took...I did it first time in over 12 months....now I don’t want to use it....living out country NSW..the first few kilometres my car will be once again covered in bugs....😂..

Grandy..

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1643 — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 05:07:13 GMT

your car will be sparkling grandy... great achievement! celebrate and enjoy that.
I feel the same, scared of getting stuck, have seen horror movies (is it scream?!) set in car washes...and just good ol' anxiety.
My neighbour is always outside washing his car, maybe i'll ask him if I can use his taps and wash mine. My street is funny everyone is always in each other's business and doing things together. Almost like the last bit of community left in this world!

My neighbour gave me a flower the other day from his garden and i nearly cried. It's so nice to have ppl acknowledge you sometimes.
Today this is very tiny but I'm worried I'm getting sick so I've been extra careful today washing hands and putting on warm clothes. That's my achievement.

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1584 — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 11:53:13 GMT

funny that sleepy. still remember first ever car was . lt grabbed your front wheels and dragged the car through- no turning back haha and l'm thinkin this things gonna kill me,

1 mtr monster round brushes hammering the car top sides bottom l'm thinking these things will strip the bloody paint and crush my bloody car. l thought they'd be really delicate on the car ha, forget it. To my surprise made it through in one piece and the car was spotless rx

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Guest_1643 — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 15:28:51 GMT

hey rx

you got it 100 percent... the no turning back is the scary part!!!

that spotless car part sounds... perfect!!

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Katyonthehamsterwheel — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 08:52:12 GMT

Lovely thread, guys. I like how you've normalised how hard it is sometimes to do even the "basics", Grandy.

Today I talked to someone about my anxiety. I knew I would cry and shake and it would be uncomfortable, but I decided to do it anyway. And I'm glad I did, because there's accomplishment in pushing through that discomfort, but also now that person understands and we can work together on strategies for dealing with it in this particular context. So I guess mine's a little like yours, Sleepy - speaking up even when it's hard.

As for your car, Grandy - inside AND out! That's huge! I wouldn't want to drive it now either lol

Thanks for this lovely thread. Katy

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Hanna3 — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 09:03:56 GMT

Katy, excuse me popping by but you had just posted and I saw it..

I was in the library today and there are so many books there about anxiety it just shows what a common problem it must be for people! So maybe it might help a teeny bit to remember that there are many others with the same problem as you have.. so you have lots of company (me included).

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

demonblaster — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 10:26:19 GMT

Hey beautiful Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and all lovelies 👋

Just tagging for now. Good thread huns

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Ggrand — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 10:30:12 GMT

Hello everyone...

Dear Katy...I can understand how hard that would have been as I have a similar problem..

I think you had a huge achievement in doing that....especially when you knew that the tears and shaking will be apart of you while disclosing your anxiety and mh face to face....well done dear Katy...

The positive outcome dear Katy..is next time you speak to this person...it hopefully will be much easier....

My kindest thoughts lovely lady..

Grandy..

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Ggrand — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 10:55:51 GMT

Hi Deebi....

Thank you for tagging..it lovely to see you here..🦋..

Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

ecomama — Fri, 05 Mar 2021 15:13:16 GMT

Hi Grandy! Such a beautiful thread, thankyou sweet lady.

You must be SO PROUD of your car now Grandy! Bugs be gone lol!

So true how hard it is when suffering from depression & anxiety.
I remember this feeling so vividly. Some "bits" still linger especially when I've had a rough time, like the past 24h.

It was fear that stopped me washing my car for the longest time.
Fear I'd be seen by perps, be put in danger, even in my own driveway.
Fear that I wouldn't have money after paying for a car wash. Money I would desperately need.
Always fear of some thing or another.

I'm good with doing it now. Some times, not too often. 😉

This afternoon I did something I was also fearful of.
Same ole same ole, "go to feelings" for recent reasons.

I just decided to go into Spotlight.
Realised I was anxious but pushed through with it anyway.
Asked one lovely shop assistant so many questions about different things.
She was SO patient (I was fearful she'd snap at me but she answered kindly every time).

Then I was fearful that the things I was choosing for the kids, they'd hate, ridicule me or the like.
The total opposite happened.
They were SO in love with what I bought them. Thrilled in fact.

Then I wondered why I put myself through the elongated fear scenarios.
I know why it's a "go to".
Just not why I still go TO.

New Vet for rescue poodle tomorrow. Feeling fearful about that now and can't sleep. He'll be fine. It's just recent bad experiences with previous Vets.

Many Blessings everyone.
Hugs Grandy
Love EM

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Ggrand — Sat, 06 Mar 2021 02:54:38 GMT

Hello ecomama...

I haven’t been inside Spotlight nor any other store other then the Woolworth and Coles in so many years now.., out of fear on being on my own....So I must admit I’m a little jealous that you were able to do that...and very proud of you at the same time.....Well done lovely lady....

How beautiful that your children loved your gift...Fear is strange the way it makes us think.,,puts all these scenarios into our head that we believe...unfortunately it’s so hard to unbelieve them though....

It’s beautiful to hear that your fears are no put to rest....hmmm until the next time..

Hope you and everyone else enjoys their weekend..and ecomama.....please enjoy your new rescue poodle...he/she will have a beautiful life full of love and care....with you and your family....

Love with caring hugs everyone..

Grandy...

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ecomama — Sat, 06 Mar 2021 08:12:13 GMT

Dear Grandy, thankyou.

I took poodle to the New Vet today.
It was a palaver lol, he barked all the way in the car and they were running "15 mins late" which actually converted to 45 mins late..
We both came home, ate then had a long nap together lol.

We've had poodle for 3y now, it was the Vet that was new. He had huge anxiety when he arrived so we carried him around in a baby sling for months (and today I had to hold him like a baby darling pup).

Grandy I would love to go into Spotlight with you.

I listed the fears in my head as I walked across the car park to Spotlight yesterday.
(demon had been across the road at my kid's work a few days before you see)...
As I listed them I KNEW some were not around anymore, so wrote those ones off.

I faced the fears, walked right thru them and power walked IN.

Aha NEW ones surfaced omg lol!
Then I realised "I can just bring the stuff back if the kids don't like it".
So continued... in fact they had to get me out at closing time!

Love to you always dearest Grandy
EMxxxx