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Guest_342 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 11:01:50 GMT

Is anyone else spending nye alone at home this year? Being in Melbourne, and the news of yesterday and today, I lost any desire to celebrate. I'm ok, and will be ok, but feeling pretty flat and worn out from a really tough, isolating and anxiety-inducing year. Tomorrow is not the fresh start we all hope for in other years. how is everyone else coping or spending nye?

NYE

Wanderlust123 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 11:51:11 GMT

Hi Gelati,

I'm sorry to hear you are not feeling the best right now, this has been a challenging year, especially for those living in Melbourne - the rest of Australia feels for you.

You helped pick me up a few days ago and I want to help do the same for you. You reassured me it was okay to not be going out this NYE and told me of your plans to watch movies with your beloved baby nephew and cat -what movies have you been watching or how else have you been keeping busy? 🙂

I am currently sat at home watching the Sydney concert on ABC while video calling my partner. I would be lying to say I haven't found this evening challenging, but we must focus on the positives and what we are grateful.

Let me know how you're going and if you need any movie recommendations. Thinking of you and sending my best 🙂

NYE

JacintaMarie — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 12:16:36 GMT

Hi Gelati

I'm home tonight & struggling with my negetive thoughts. My trigger was that I said two stupid things & got a sarcastic comment.

I can't be kind to myself, I'm so used to being nasty to myself,

But I'm watching a best of stand up comedy 2020 & some wine & trying to stop the thoughts.

2020 hasn't been great but hopefully the future will be better. It's been bad but will slowly get better. Just keep on going & you'll get there! 😃

Jacinta

NYE

Guest_342 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 12:25:11 GMT

Thank you so much. I thought of you as I was writing my post because I did indeed encourage you to feel ok about staying home and here I am saying I feel ordinary today. Despite my post, which may seem like I wasn't practising what I preach, I am happy to hear you have settled in for a nice night at home watching the concert and chatting with your partner.

I suppose today's news of new restrictions, and my ever-present anxiety that we will have to go through our lockdown again, coupled with the ever changing borders and my love being in Sydney - for who knows how long, now - brought out the worry in me. Babysitting was cancelled as my brother's party had to be cancelled today. So I found myself actually alone but at the same time not wanting to go out anyway. But I guess at the moment we have to expect disruptions here and there... I'm just struggling a little with my resilience sometimes.

But on the positive side, I do have my beloved cat - he's sitting by the window, watching the world go by with complete interest. We also went for a wander together in the back yard earlier - he get's so excited when we got out on his leash. He's been a treasure this year, through our yucky Melbourne winter and spring.

I will be seeing a work friend for a walk tomorrow, so that will be a nice opportunity to tune out from the doom and gloom.

Thank you for prompting me to remember that there are some positives and things to look forward to.

I'm watching a film called Mystic River. It's a little dark but interesting.

You're a wonderful person - this little bit of care you've shown to me tonight has cheered me up a bit. Thank you so much, and I do apologise again for seeming to act inconsistently with my advice to you earlier.

Best wishes x

NYE

Guest_342 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 12:31:28 GMT

Hi Jacinta!

I know the feeling that you're describing. I sometimes replay those things over and over in my head and try to imagine how things would have turned out if I hadn't said something in particular. Sometimes it's a relief to just tell yourself, "Stop it. What's done is done." I wonder if this could work for you to some extent?

Comedy and wine sounds delightful! I have a cup of tea and have gobbled down a whole punnet of strawberries. I've totally lost control haha and may pay with a tummy ache later!

My heartfelt thanks to you and Wanderlust for your kind words and for sharing something about yourselves. I so appreciate your time and compassion.

NYE

Guest_4643 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 12:54:45 GMT

Hey Gelati.

I'm in VIC too, but not Melbourne. It's awful, huh? I'm sorry you're alone and with all the COVID stuff. It still affects all Victorians though unfortunately. I like your username by the way.

I never do anything for New Years, it's never been a thing I like. I personally hate fireworks, and I just see it as another year.

I'm around if you'd like to chat?

NYE

Guest_342 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 14:12:45 GMT

Hello, fellow Victorian, mb20lover.

It's so nice to hear from you. I'm hearing about many people now who don't do much for new year's eve. That makes me feel better. I was content to do nothing much, but the changes today got be a little muddled and scared for the near future.

Thanks for the compliment about my username. It doesn't have any particular meaning 🙂

Are you feeling ok?

NYE

NathanJames — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 14:22:13 GMT

First time using this website so it’s hard to show emotion or adjust to sharing things.

But I’m just at home drinking by myself and having thoughts on my head but trying to block them out

NYE

Guest_342 — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 14:45:15 GMT

Hi Nathan,

Welcome!

Thanks for sharing. I hope it was a nice bottle of wine, though?

I'm hoping you have had an ok night and that 2021 brings you happiness.

I appreciate the time you took to reply to my post. Thank you.

Gelati

NYE

Guest_4643 — Fri, 01 Jan 2021 02:52:39 GMT

Hey Gelati, sorry I'm just replying to you now.

I'm ok, how are you?

NYE

pansy2021 — Fri, 01 Jan 2021 04:14:47 GMT

Hi all,

I am not in Vic, however this morning New Years Day i woke and could not stop sobbing!

My anxiety and panic went through the roof! I was alone on New Years Eve due to kids doing own thing and partner away working.

I can not stop the thoughts of sheer despair, like the world is going to end or something.

I went for a walk which helped calm me down. WTH is going on . I feel like there was nothing to celebrate or hopeful for 2021.

Is this something that others are feeling atm ? As I am feeling like this is something that is happening only to me .

Perspective is needed.

xxxx

NYE

Elizabeth CP — Fri, 01 Jan 2021 04:49:03 GMT

We usually go into the city & meet up with my daughter's family to watch the fireworks from her hsb's relatives apartment. It is nice spending time with family & watching the grandkids antics.

This year we stayed home and went to bed by 10pm. Had a nice drink in the fridge & chocolates & other treats in the cupboard but didn't feel like celebrating at all I had planned to visit a friend who I haven't seen since Jan due to the lockdowns but after hearing the news yesterday of cases back in Vic I rang to cancel. Yesterday while while talking to my son re the new cluster here in Vic my 9 yr old grandson overheard. He said' So that means we've got Covid back here'. Hearing the horror in his voice reinforced my feeling of dismay & worry.

I was reviewing my goals. So many from last year were shelved due to Covid & this year it is hard to plan even fu things like holidays with the fear that the pandemic will stop them anyway. I certainly won't be bookingany interstate trips even when allowed and even in Vic i won't book anything i can't cancel easily.

NYE

Guest_4643 — Fri, 01 Jan 2021 07:16:41 GMT

Hi pansy2021, welcome to the forums.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I always find New Years hard too, I try to have a positive attitude about it aswell as Christmas, Birthdays, etc etc but it always ends up being hard for me, like something bad happens. I'm always told how negative I am but i struggle with being positive, not on purpose, I just haven't had CBT or anything.

Are you ok now?

Elizabeth - I'm sorry you couldn't see your friends & family. It's heartbreaking. I hope you can see them all eventually.

NYE

JacintaMarie — Sat, 02 Jan 2021 08:57:25 GMT

Hi Gelati

I am trying too but at times it's hard, the only way I stop it, is to get so upset that I exhaust myself,

I had a bad morning & now it's getting better, slowly. Been trying to imagine that my thoughts are cars & I need to watch them go by!

NYE

Guest_342 — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 10:29:02 GMT

Hi mb20lover,

I'm doing ok. Usually today would be exciting because I'd get to return to work and see my colleagues. But it seems like we'll be working at home until at least March. Bit of a boring start to the year. Oh well, I guess this year might be a bit uncertain still.

Hope you had a nice day.

NYE

Guest_342 — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 10:34:17 GMT

Hi Pansy,

I definitely feel a bit like you do. I felt like I didn't know if there was anything to celebrate because we're still in the middle of the pandemic.

But maybe we'll see some better news this year 🙂

NYE

Guest_342 — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 10:45:01 GMT

Hi Elizabeth,

I felt the same feeling of dread when I heard about new cases in Victoria. We went through such a tough time, for a long time. It felt like our basic freedoms were taken from all angles with seemingly no end in sight. But the last few days have given me cautious optimism.

It's been upsetting to see the division this has caused between states and territories. I have struggled with my identity as an 'Australian' the last year - I felt like we're all Victorian, or Tasmanian, or Queenslander, etc and we enjoy or miss freedoms inconsistently depending on where we live. I too have no confidence in arranging a holiday, as much as I desperately need one.

But I got a photo book made for my family for Christmas - demonstrating that 2020 wasn't completely terrible - I actually found a lot of happy and funny photos in my phone!

NYE

Guest_342 — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 10:49:29 GMT

Hi Jacinta,

I'm sorry to hear you've found yourself getting exhausted.

That's an interesting way to watch your thoughts/worries - as cars. I might actually try that.

Hope your mind gets a little bit of a break and that the watching cars analogy works. Xo

NYE

Wanderlust123 — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 11:05:23 GMT

Hi Gelati,

It's been a week since I last messaged and thought I'd check in to see how you are going?

I'm happy to hear you were able to find lots of cheerful pictures from 2020, and I hope there are many more good times ahead this year too.

I have improved significantly since my New Years Eve blues. I took some time out to reflect, and I have set myself one goal for the year: positivity - to think more positive thoughts, be kinder to myself, and look at situations in a positive light. I read that our thoughts affect our feelings which affect our behaviour - this was a lightbulb moment for me.

On Sunday I went walking for a couple of hours amongst nature which made me feel stronger; I told myself things I liked about myself, that I am good enough and thought of all the things that make me happy/feel grateful. Every day this week I have been waking up and telling myself it will be a good day, trying to think positive and see the good. So far this is working for me, as well as getting a good night sleep.

How has your week been? Did you set yourself any goals for this year? What self-care acts have you been doing this week? 🙂

NYE

Guest_342 — Sun, 10 Jan 2021 00:55:04 GMT

Hi Wanderlust,

Thank you so much for your message. I'm sorry about the delay - we don't get notifications of new posts.

I was so touched by your kindness in writing this further message.

I'm so pleased to hear you've been getting into this habit of waking up to positivity and that you are reminding yourself of how great you really are 🙂

Those are such excellent idea, which I really would like to practise myself.

I have been ok. I've not socialised a lot, but little bits here and there. We were going to have a family catch-up on the weekend but a family member had been in Brisbane so we postponed put of caution. But hoping that'll all pass soon and we can focus on things perhaps being a little better soon. I'm feeling positive about the situation in Sydney and that maybe I'll be able to see my Sydney-based partner soon. He showed such compassion for me during 2020 and I'm so amazed he stayed around, even though we only met for the first time in Jan 2020. Maybe he's a keeper 🙂 We will see.

One thing I hope for this year is to eat healthier - lockdown and food and sitting on the couch for hours go well together, and I have a few additional covid kgs. I also understand that what we eat can help our mind too. I like your comment a out our thoughts influencing how we feel - it's so true. One thing I've heard before is if you smile - no matter if you're feeling down - that simple facial expression can improve your mood.

So thank you - I am going to try to be happy today and perhaps that'll flow into Monday.

With my sincere gratitude, I wish you a happy week.