topic Do I like Myself? in Staying well

Do I like Myself?

Guest_8790 — Sun, 07 Apr 2019 13:35:42 GMT

Well not really I guess. can't change your appearance but wish there
was but I've put up with myself for over half a century but now and again
my hate me thoughts come in. such is life. I usually fake it until I make it
attitude so no one will know how I feel. not sure why writing this
now guess am having.a self doubt moment.of my direction on life
and struggling with studies. assessment due Tuesday. . guess it's
called life.

rusted forever

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blondguy — Sun, 07 Apr 2019 13:56:45 GMT

Hi RustyGirl

You are no different to anyone on the forums. It is very common to 'wear a mask' so people dont know how we feel. I am in my late 50's and am here to support people that are doing it hard since 2016

I really hope you can stick around...if you wish to of course! You are always welcome to jump in on the "Do You Like Yourself" thread. I have placed the link below for you. Its a copy & paste link that you can place into your browser

www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/do-you-like-yourself-your-thoughts-are-welcome

Great to have you as part of the Beyond Blue family Rustygirl 🙂

my kind thoughts

Paul

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Guest_8790 — Wed, 10 Apr 2019 13:49:53 GMT

I know am no different just boring and alone but it's cool cause only I can live with me. being last born and quiet and chubby determined my life but not bitter just get on with life whatever that means. I define myself not my lousy family. just trying to find out what I want to do with it.

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blondguy — Wed, 10 Apr 2019 14:01:22 GMT

Hi Rusty

can I ask why you think you are 'boring'? I am also quiet. I joined the forums after being made 'redundant' from a job in 2016...and it still bugs me...now and again

What do you want to do? (if I can ask)

my kind thoughts

Paul

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Guest_8790 — Fri, 12 Apr 2019 04:05:02 GMT

I consider I am boring because I guess I am sensitive and feel people don't connect with me. if in groups they ignore me. I am not sure of my future. but am looking to get into peer support work hence my study at moment. will have to decide after semester.

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blondguy — Fri, 12 Apr 2019 14:09:57 GMT

Hey Rusty

Good on you for wanting to get into peer support work! Even in year 12 I wasnt sure about my future either....everything usually falls into place...seriously

You are not boring Rusty Girl.....amazing and proactive yes 🙂

Its really great to have you as part of the Beyond Blue family

Paul

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Guest_8790 — Sat, 13 Apr 2019 06:04:58 GMT

thanks for positive comments as I am looking at things negatively for so long. it's only in recent years through Learning from counselling and doing self care I think I have made progress. never two days are same but having self care plan grounds me. doing this course it is being reinforced how important it is. one day I hope I can be of help to someone else. thanks for your comments

rusted

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something_missing — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 12:11:07 GMT

Hi Rusty girl.how u going. just read ur post. i can relate to were ur comin from a little bit. but yes yes yes u do like yourself,in fact u should love yourself b4 anyone else. idont mean to sound funny about it but my past was being bullied at school and abused at home by my step mother. after yrs of workin and two failed marrages i (at the age of 50 now 59] have finally relised [i know bit slow] that the most important person in the world is u. you need to be confident in waat u do , know that u r doing the best u can ,and if other people cast an eye at u or dont like wat u r doing ,who cares. look after ur self first be happy within ur self be proud of who u are ,and life will turn around for u. hope ur studies going ok, get rid of those hate me thoughts, ifind medetation helps me as i get negitive thoughts. maybe it may help u. hope this helps a bit .love life keep smiling life is great

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Guest_8790 — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 13:53:03 GMT

hi

Thanks for your reply. everything you say is right. I have done my negative thoughts for so long it's become a habit I am doing some type of meditation so hopefully will help me eventually. studies are stressful but am progressing. sounds like you have had it tough so hopefully things will look up for you.
kind regards
rusty

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smallwolf — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 02:00:47 GMT

Hi Rusty,

Can you tell me a little about what you are studying? And perhaps if you also tell me why it is stressful for you? I might be able to give you a couple of hint or tips and tricks 🙂

I am doing a BTh, currently on hold, while a do a Dip. in Counselling. There are many reasons why I am doing this that I may reveal over time to you.

And I know what you mean when you said that no two days are the same. I am the same as you.

Peace and comforting thoughts,

Tim

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Guest_8790 — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 09:48:15 GMT

Hello Tim

I am studying cert IV in mental health so that I can get a job as a peer support worker as I have a lived experience and though had not originally thought of it, a peer support group where I used to go, the field worker suggested I try and go for it. Hence I took the chance. I have not studied for a quite .. a few years and had some anxiety moments in class. I am nearing the end of semester and some subjects have role plays and this can be very daunting for me. Also not sure if I get a placement yet.

rusty

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something_missing — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 12:21:10 GMT

Hi rusty girl. [love the name] how r your studies going. good on you for doing cert IV in mental health. u mentioned u r boring .NO NO NO everyone is different . just because u dont conect with everyone or dont go out and take the world by storm does not make u boring .i have very similar happenings to me and i have relised that that is who i am and have learnt to accept it. if you go out some were or even at ur studies and people dont talk to u a lot it is ok. u will find some one to communicate with.yes i do admit that wen i go out and talking to people is a bit on the lean side it does make me wonder a bit but then i realise that it is there lost not mine.i have learnt to listen more than talk these days.anyhoo just a line to say hi. best wishes

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Guest_8790 — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 15:14:37 GMT

Thanks for your reply. I am at the last stages of course with two subjects and a lot of role plays. In a few weeks we will be placed in real locations in order to pass course. nerves and stress will have to be unde4 control.
I have sort of accepted way I am but not totally. that's life.

rusty girl

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smallwolf — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 20:30:31 GMT

Hi Rusty gir,

I am doing a Dip. in Counselling. Similar to you with a lived experience. I decided to do it after talking to a couple of lecturers who knew what I was going through before I started. The other thing about it is that I get to learn more about myself which is helpful for me when I talk to my psychologist.

As for liking myself.... work in progress.

Tim

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Guest_8790 — Thu, 16 May 2019 08:23:11 GMT

never accepted myself since 14 onwards. hated being build like my father who had a bug build and 6 foot tall. I am not that tall but otherwise like him. the non acceptance is a continuum. affects all parts of my life. not getting work being isolated and not wanting to go outside and failing bin studies. guess it doesn't matter anymore as hope my life is short
not interested in anything any more. such is life. oh well guess this is just a bad day

rusty

tried all usual positives seeing a shrink but st end of day who cares got will made out and safety plan in action ready when I feel.bad.