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Share your "life lessons" here: the good, bad and the ugly

Peppermintbach — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 04:39:57 GMT

Hi everyone,

Please feel free to share your "life lessons" here that you have learnt (or are in the process of learning) along the way 🙂

This is a place for you to share your lessons learnt from times of joy as well as times of loss and pain (and all the other emotions in between).

I hope this thread becomes a place of collective wisdom and learned experience.

May the sharing begin...

Love,

Pepper xo

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Peppermintbach — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 04:48:52 GMT

Hi again,

I will get the ball rolling.

Here is something that I have personally learnt...it may not apply to everyone else- and that's okay- but here is what I have personally learnt about:

LOVE:

I would like to start with a quote:

You never lose by loving. You only lose by holding back.

- unknown

I think that life can sometimes feel long. But when we think about it, it's pretty short in the grand scheme of things; it's a nanosecond. You never know what tomorrow will bring.

Sometimes the unexpected happens or could happen, and tomorrow is never guaranteed for any one of us (regardless of which end of the age spectrum you're on). There have been times in my life where I have lost people completely unexpectedly and deeply regretted not having expressed my feelings more...so tell your loved ones that you love them, hug your friends more, give compliments, thank people, buy an affordable present or make a present for a loved one "just because"...you might not always get a second chance at "tomorrow."

It's easier to keep your feelings to yourself, let pride take precedence, fear rejection so we sometimes hold back...but as I said, tomorrow is not guaranteed. It's better, in my humble opinion, to risk looking or sounding like a "fool" than to lose an opportunity to tell or show someone that you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed...

Also, I think that romantic/intimate love is not the only type of love

So often hollywood sells us the story that romantic/intimate love is the "ultimate" and is what everyone should strive for. But I would suggest while it can be a very important kind of love, it is not the only type of love.

There's also:

- love between parents and children

- love between siblings

- love between friends

- love between humans and non-humans like dogs and horses

- love for your life's passion e.g. people who have dedicated their lives to humanitarian work, etc.

The list is endless and is different for everyone.

While many of us strive for romantic love, and I'm in no way, shape or form knocking that...what I'm trying to say is it's not the only type of love. Sometimes love comes knocking in non-romantic ways. I've learnt that sometimes we don't always get the love we think we want but sometimes we get the love we need.

Pepper xo

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BlueGrass — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 05:54:46 GMT

Hi Pepper (smile) (trying to figure out how that works)

I could not agree more with everything you have written there.

I read a lot of the quotes, and some videos, that show on facebook (other than that, I really don't like fb) and I find some very challenging, others supportive, some uplifting, some just learning that life is meant to be fun.

I've started to write some down. Some that are challenging me at the moment are :

"If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else" Love Wide Open

"The hardest prison to be trapped in is the fear of what others think" Steve Wentworth

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topsy_ — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 09:18:30 GMT

Good topic Pepper

This one I have learnt through painful experience -

Life is Not Fair

Also for those of us old enough to remember Love Story - L

Love DOES me saying you're sorry.

Lyn

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Quercus — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 15:50:13 GMT

Hi Pepper,

This is an interesting idea for a thread.

My Grandfather used to tell me...

1. Manners cost you nothing.

2. Never accept a partner being rude or sarcastic to you.

He was right. A simple thank you or please, a smile of welcome or being polite isn't difficult yet in my experience is very rewarding.

And his other advice was solely for me and noone else (sarcasm goes right over my head everyone who knows me thinks its funny) so it was his warning that if a partner was sarcastic to me they were being cruel at my expense and to run for the hills. He was right about this too.

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velvetfaerie — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 22:36:08 GMT

Hey Pepper,

Great words! I've been speaking to people this week about that stuff. Especially one person. Told them take nothing and no one for granted. Step up and speak up. Express yourself. If you aren't happy with your situation take steps to change it. Do all these things and your self esteem should grow too.,

I'm glad I'm not alone in wanting to "seize the day."

Hope that made sense. It's early and my head is fluffy lol.

velvz.

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Zeal — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 23:37:08 GMT

Hey everyone,

This is a great idea for a thread!

I have learned over the years that moderation is the key (when it comes to food, lifestyle, work/life balance), and that love and interpersonal bonds are more important than just about anything.

Best wishes,

Zeal

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Peppermintbach — Sun, 30 Jul 2017 08:23:30 GMT

Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for your contributions and feedback 🙂 Happy to have you all on board.

BlueGrass- I'm glad my words struck a chord with you and I liked both quotes. The one about peace particularly resonated with me. Thanks so much.

yellownanna- yes, I completely agree with you that saying sorry is important especially if it's to people that you love. I'm not always the best at that so it's something that I need to work on...

Quercus- your grandfather left you some pearls. Yes, I agree that rudeness is uncalled for and can sometimes be quite revealing about a person's temperament.

Velvz- all good, you made perfect sense 🙂 I agree with you that time and the people that we love and care about is indeed precious. It's best to just say it and get it out in the stratosphere; regret is horrible and life is just so unpredictable...

Zeal- thanks and I like your point about moderation. Extremes can push us too far one way or the other. Yes, love isn't always easy to come by so I'm with you that it's to be cherished.

Pepper xo

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Peppermintbach — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 10:10:44 GMT

Hi,

I felt a sudden urge to share this; it will be my last post of the day.

I was thinking about family and how it's not always (although it can be) about blood.

This quote sums it up:

I don't care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching--they are your family.

- Jim Butcher

So here's to family- blood, adopted, blended, step, foster, with/without children, animals, friends, communities, etc.

Kind thoughts,

Pepper xx

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velvetfaerie — Thu, 10 Aug 2017 02:47:13 GMT

I love that quote Pepper. 😄

Currently I am learning to not give a stuff about the things I can't change and to concentrate on things I can change. Look after me. Stuff the rest unless dire.

I am exhausted.

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Peppermintbach — Fri, 11 Aug 2017 08:20:33 GMT

Hey V.,

Thanks for the support 🙂 Yes, look after you. I've seen some of your posts and I feel for your loss and pain. Not much I can do other than to say, I'm so sorry, and to offer a ridiculous number of virtual hugs.

Kind thoughts,

Pepper xoxo

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quirkywords — Fri, 11 Aug 2017 08:31:24 GMT

Pepper

just seen this thread, didn't know you had a few.

Very interesting.

I must be a slow learner because I sometimes make the same mistake.

Quirky

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Peppermintbach — Sun, 13 Aug 2017 09:42:44 GMT

Hi Quirky,

I always appreciate your visits 🙂

I don't think you're a "slow learner" as you put it because I think many of us can intellectually understand a mistake. But intellectual understanding doesn't mean we are emotionally ready to process a mistake if that makes any sense...so we repeat mistakes. I do that too for sure, that is, repeat mistakes.

Kind thoughts,

Pepper xxx

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Peppermintbach — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 14:51:24 GMT

Hi,

Sometimes you learn that your best isn't good enough.

It's a bitter pill to swallow but a reality of life sometimes.

Pepper xx

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Quercus — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 15:58:23 GMT

Hi Pepper,

Ouch that's a hard lesson. Does it relate to anything current? Are you alright?

My life lesson of the day... If you feel like crap multiple hot cups of tea are in order! What's your poison? Mine is Earl Grey 😊

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Peppermintbach — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 19:13:34 GMT

Hi Quercus,

Thanks for asking 🙂 Your're very kind and thoughtful.

Sighs...current or not, I suppose that doesn't really matter. I think what matters to me is the lesson learnt. You're right about the "ouch" part.

Sage advice about the tea. I don't mind Early Grey but I'm admittedly more of a coffee drink than tea drinker. As for teas, I like English Breakfast or Peppermint or Chai tea 🙂

Thanks Quercus.

Kind thoughts,

Pepper xxx

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Just Sara — Thu, 24 Aug 2017 05:54:36 GMT

Dearest Pepper;

I haven't seen this thread either till now. Sorry...

I'm sorry to hear you've had a reality check. I've seen some muso titles that may give an idea of where you're at??

Enough is 'always' enough! Feeling confident in knowing you've done your best regardless of how it's taken, validates you. Asking questions about why 'they' feel what you've done isn't enough, puts the ball back in their corner.

If you could describe 'that' hard lesson, what would it say? The challenge? Try to make it sound positive and productive.

Love Sez xo Mwah!

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quirkywords — Thu, 24 Aug 2017 06:03:39 GMT

Pepper,

are you ok? Does it feel ok or awkward to share your lesson?

I suppose I have learnt and I am getting older every day , your best is always good enough but sometimes other people do not appreciate your effort. It is always good enough for me that I have made the effort.

That is my take for what it is worth.

Pepper you are very special be kind to yourself and keep being you because you are wonderful just the way you are.

Quirky

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Peppermintbach — Thu, 24 Aug 2017 09:25:42 GMT

Hi guys,

Sez- please don't apologise; you have not doing anything wrong. Oh yeah, the music does indeed speak volumes...

Sorry, I can't quite put a positive spin on it just yet. Maybe one day...lesson is still sinking in.

Love you; moon, arts and all xoxoxo

Quirky- I don't know if I'm okay or not but I'm here, and thanks for asking. It means a lot that you reached out 🙂

Yeah, hence the bitter reality part...I hear what you're saying though...

Thanks, not sure about the wonderful part but I am who I am. For better or for worse. Lol.

Love,

Pepper xoxo

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Guest_829 — Thu, 24 Aug 2017 09:47:51 GMT

the "posative spin" things are hard,but if you can find one and it makes some sense to you then apply it,and pass it on.theres still so much good information and helpful people out there and im full anti-social media but i can find stuff occasionally.keep looking.