https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/starting-life-afresh-after-the-black-dog/m-p/38044#M2139 <P>I first accepted that I had depression 12 months ago. In that time it has cost me my marriage, and 2 jobs. That said having separated from my wife, I am now in a happier place emotionally and I have a better relationship with my two kids. I have more energy to interact with them, and I get angry with them far, far less often then I did previously. So from that perspective things have improved, and I will take that over my marriage. This may sound cold, but I think a lack of understanding and support from my ex led to my depressed state becoming as severe as it did.&nbsp;</P> <P>So, I am at the age of 40, starting life afresh. This is challenging, but in a healthy and better way than previously. I am meeting new people and building healthy relationships with friends of my own. It took me some time to accept this, but I'm glad that I have, as I am better than I have been in years!</P> Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:54:58 GMT Buckets74 2014-10-14T12:54:58Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/starting-life-afresh-after-the-black-dog/m-p/38044#M2139 <P>I first accepted that I had depression 12 months ago. In that time it has cost me my marriage, and 2 jobs. That said having separated from my wife, I am now in a happier place emotionally and I have a better relationship with my two kids. I have more energy to interact with them, and I get angry with them far, far less often then I did previously. So from that perspective things have improved, and I will take that over my marriage. This may sound cold, but I think a lack of understanding and support from my ex led to my depressed state becoming as severe as it did.&nbsp;</P> <P>So, I am at the age of 40, starting life afresh. This is challenging, but in a healthy and better way than previously. I am meeting new people and building healthy relationships with friends of my own. It took me some time to accept this, but I'm glad that I have, as I am better than I have been in years!</P> Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:54:58 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/starting-life-afresh-after-the-black-dog/m-p/38044#M2139 Buckets74 2014-10-14T12:54:58Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/starting-life-afresh-after-the-black-dog/m-p/38045#M2140 <P>Sounds good Buckets74! I too have been through a marriage breakup, it's hard especially with children involved but I firmly agree with you, if a marriage can't be fixed it is better for children to have happy parents even if they are apart.&nbsp;</P> <P>And I am glad that you have new direction, moving forward, keep it up and keep setting new goals. Congratulations for getting through this and thanks for sharing.</P> Tue, 14 Oct 2014 23:24:22 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/starting-life-afresh-after-the-black-dog/m-p/38045#M2140 Jacko777 2014-10-14T23:24:22Z