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Lonely and so sad

Darley — Sat, 19 Jul 2025 09:32:45 GMT

I’m so lonely

I have a husband and children but feel so lonely

it really is too hard and no one would miss me I’m sure

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Sun, 20 Jul 2025 12:39:22 GMT

hello and welcome.

I don't know much from your post yet have been familiar with loneliness - when I was working from home and lost contact with the outside world. And i had/have a wife and children. And our mind easily plays tricks on us, telling us we won't be missed. I hope you might stay around for a little, and tell me some of your story...

Re: Lonely and so sad

Darley — Mon, 21 Jul 2025 05:44:13 GMT

Thanks for response it is encouraging

Im 70 and basically lonely and feeling redundant

im married but my husband runs a gardening business as a hobby and im not encouraged to join him

i try to enjoy outing with other people such a walking etc but would prefer sharing my day with my husband.

i feel I’m just there to enable his life by keeping house and cooking which I do not thrive at after a life of career and family

I’m feeling very depressed and yet petty

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Mon, 21 Jul 2025 12:09:32 GMT

if you don't mind me asking... does your husband know how you feel? Or in what ways are you "not encouraged to join him"? Sounds a little sad.

Or are there other things you might be able to do that you enjoy? For example, I was talking with some people from a child care center and they were looking for people to read to the children. This might not be for you, but rather give you some ideas?

Re: Lonely and so sad

Darley — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 09:25:26 GMT

Thank you

helping at a school sounds like an idea

Yes my husband does know how I feel

it is all be but sad as you say

im sure I’ll be fine thank you for your kind thoughts

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Wed, 23 Jul 2025 10:50:22 GMT

I’m really glad to hear helping at a school might be something you'd consider. Sometimes even small connections like that can make a big difference, both for others and for ourselves. There might be other things you used to do (and like) also ...?

Most important, please do be kind to yourself, and take things one step at a time. If ever you want to talk or explore more ideas, I’m listening...

Re: Lonely and so sad

Darley — Thu, 24 Jul 2025 08:42:36 GMT

Thank you for your suuport

it has helped

yiu are very kind

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Thu, 24 Jul 2025 12:33:03 GMT

And you are too kind for saying that.

if you don't mind my asking... what sort of things do you like doing?

Re: Lonely and so sad

Darley — Fri, 25 Jul 2025 07:04:21 GMT

I like walking, tv , books and travel.

the trouble is when I’m depressed I have little motivation

which when written seems very petty

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Mon, 28 Jul 2025 11:48:18 GMT

I get what you are saying ... ti happens to me also re little motivation. Using walking as a example, I would find that if I went outside (for a walk) that when I started I would think something along the lines of "what is the point" but then after about 10 minutes or so, my attitude would change. I would walk to a gardens that was about 25 minutes (walking pace) from where I lived and watch the world go by. This may or may not work for you? Perhaps a better answer might be is that we each have to work out the circuit breaker for those moments and/or ride it out. And if it is the latter, remember you are awesome!

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Mon, 11 Aug 2025 11:04:01 GMT

hey there, just checking in to see if you are OK?

Re: Lonely and so sad

Darley — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 07:41:10 GMT

Thank you smallwolf that is kind of you to think of me.

Im fine most days

i have been giving some thought to my situation and applying some CBT techniques which I think is helping.

Re: Lonely and so sad

smallwolf — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 11:16:46 GMT

hey.... glad to see you replied. And good to know the CBT sounds like it is helping.

You don’t have to tell me everything, but I’m wondering what sort of things you’ve been doing each day that seem to have helped you. No pressure! Just interested and happy to hear you’re finding things that work for you.