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safety plan for pet

Soulofthoughtz — Mon, 07 Dec 2020 11:33:17 GMT

I was first diagnosed with bipolar and depression then changed to bpd I struggle with s idealisations. I would like to put a plan in place for my little mate(dog,puppy). He is such a wonderful companion and my biggest fear is if I fall to far into the dark that he will end up in the pound and face a similar fate. I had considered looking to rehome him in the present but he is my little buddy and I would find it hard to let him go. What steps can I take to make sure my boy will always have a home.

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Ggrand — Mon, 07 Dec 2020 11:56:53 GMT

Hello Soulofthoughts,

A very warm welcome to the forums..

You have such a beautiful heart thinking of you little boy...

I have two little fur girls that I love so much..I couldn’t imagine life without them....They are a huge reason that I am still around....

I am honoured to be there mum and take care of them..getting up each day to feed and play with them is what keeps me going...

It would be wonderful if you can keep your fur boy with you..for helping you to distract negatively from escalating to much...idk but our pets are more then pets..they are our family...

I am lucky I have two sons..and they both agreed to look after them if something happened to me....even my neighbour said she will care for them...it’s gives our mind some peace knowing that they will be looked after..

Do you have any family or close friends that you feel you could trust to love and care for you little boy, if needed...or maybe a neighbour that loves him?..

I hope others come here and someone else may have more ideas to help you..

My Kindest and most caring thoughts..

Grandy..

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Soulofthoughtz — Mon, 07 Dec 2020 12:10:20 GMT

Hi thanks for your reply. Yes he is definitely considered family and has helped me through some dark and sad times. But unfortunately I don't have family or friends that can take care of him otherwise that would be ideal.

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Tay100 — Tue, 08 Dec 2020 00:16:55 GMT

Hi Soulofthoughtz

Firstly, it is so sweet to see the love of your pet- you clearly have a special bond and care about their needs. I would say talk to your local vet or even the local council- they might have some great resources including dog walking/grooming services and pet minding services. Some programs are run by animal-loving volunteers so are fairly accessible I hope. This will hopefully take a load off of you and give you peace of mind when you feel you can't mind them for a short while or need a little help meeting their needs!

What breed is your little friend? He sounds lovely!

Tay100

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Birdy77 — Tue, 08 Dec 2020 04:33:15 GMT

Hello Soulofthoughtz,

The RSPCA has a program (at least they do in NSW) called the
Home Ever After Program,
(it might be called Pet Legacies in other states).

It costs nothing to enrol your fur-mate.

It might be worth checking out.

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Soulofthoughtz — Tue, 08 Dec 2020 09:26:13 GMT

Hi Tay and Birdy and thank you for the reply. I spent last night doing some research so did come pass the r.s.p.c.a program so will give them a call but thanks for pointing it out. I will also contact the council and vet wonderful ideas Thanks guys.

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Tay100 — Thu, 10 Dec 2020 02:57:11 GMT

Hi Soulofthoughtz

That's great news! Feel free to let us know how you go as well 🙂

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Aaronsis — Thu, 10 Dec 2020 22:11:57 GMT

Good Morning Soulofthoughtz

I have read your post and reread it and it has been sitting with me until I felt I knew how to word my reply to you.

I wanted to say welcome and I wanted to say what a beautiful kind heart that you have to ensure the welfare, the safety and that your little mate has love.....what it left me with was also thinking "can you take some of these things for yourself?"

I am wondering if you would like to share some of what is going on for you. Only if you want to and only if you feel comfortable to. I know you know this but I also wanted to remind you that ultimately your little mate (who looks absolutely adorable by the way) would much rather be with you, and from what I can read, you need him so very much too. He is your family and can also be your "one reason to stay".

Sometimes all a person needs is one reason, one thing to provide hope and provide love and that I can hear you get so very much from your little mate. We can also be another support system for you too, to listen and to share and to be with you, even if it is via a computer screen.

You matter and your life matters and you are loved.

I am wondering if you have had a chat to a GP or had some professional support?

Huge hugs to you Soulofthoughtz and I really hope to chat to you some more.

Sarah xx

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Soulofthoughtz — Sun, 20 Dec 2020 03:56:40 GMT

Hi Sarah thanks for the warm welcome. I have been debating whether to share but came to the conclusion if it doesn't help me maybe it will help somebody else. You will have to bear with me as I can be stubborn at times. I have been dwelling on these thoughts for the last two years and some are dark and tainted.
I do believe sometimes a person only needs the one thing to bring them hope and purpose to life. My mind was already twisted and my body broken before my boy entered my life through unfortunate circumstances.
Yes I have seen my g.p and a few councillors briefly.

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Soulofthoughtz — Sun, 20 Dec 2020 03:58:06 GMT

I injured my back in late 2018. I seen my g.p a few days later. I spent the next three to four weeks on my loungeroom floor unable to sit or walk (for longer then a minute or two with great effort).
The day came where I had enough strength to make it to the local phyciatric hospital (suicidal,first time on heavy pain killers,hallucinations).
I have since recovered a little and have had back surgery it fixed some problems but created others so unfortunately the surgery was unsuccessful. My back specialist has/will request a second surgery (fingers crossed).
Since my injury I have detiorated on all levels mind,body and soul. I have always been a support for others around me and now I can't even look after myself.
Work has always given me purpose, a way to put food on the table and contribute to society.
Any hobbies I had or the things that I use to love to do changed on that awful day.

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Aaronsis — Mon, 21 Dec 2020 02:41:52 GMT

Hi Soulofthoughtz

It is really great to hear from you and I am so proud of you for sharing your struggles, you sure do have so much on your plate and have really had some battles to face.

That is such a wonderful attitude to have, that sharing your story may indeed help another, and the really wonderful thing about forums such as this is that so many others do read, to take comfort and to feel supported just from reading the words that you share and the battles you face, to know that they are not alone but mostly what those people are doing to help feel better.

Well your boy obviously found you at a time when you both needed each other, funny how sometimes the universe sends you a gift when you need it most, and one thing however small, that talks to your heart to provide hope and to provide a reason to stay.

Your back injury sounds horrific and has sure brought with it some mental health issues as well, I am so sorry that it took you down such a dark path that you had to go to the psychiatric hospital, although in saying that, at least you were supported and were in a safe place.

It is a very real thing being able to support everyone else, be a rock and a place of hope for others but to have no clue how to help themselves, I too have had to have some help in this space to be able to take some of the advice that I give others, but also to understand the advice, it really is two very different things.

We are here to listen if you wanted to share some of your story about your back injury, but only if you want to or if you feel it will help you.

Are you still able to work? Are you able to do even one of the hobbies you love doing?

Hope today is a great one for you and you can find a smile amongst the challenges.

Hugs to you

Sarah

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Soulofthoughtz — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 04:41:46 GMT

The r.s.p.c.a contacted me today and they are sending some forms out to be filled in. It looks promising

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Aaronsis — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 04:53:27 GMT

Hi Soulofthoughtz

I am really pleased to hear that the RSPCA is helping you with ensuring that your boy is in good hands should you not be able to take care of him.

I would now like to also see that you too are in good hands. You matter so very much to us and I hope that you are doing well today Soulofthoughtz. I hear how much your life has changed for you and you are not doing the things that you once did that gave you joy, or able to do because of your injury, but that does not make you unworthy of love or of help.

I think it shows just how much love you have inside of you by what you are doing for your boy and I am wondering if you can keep some of this love for yourself, just even to see that there is hope and there are brighter days for you.

Here to chat and to share your journey anytime you feel like it.

Hugs

Sarah

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Soulofthoughtz — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 06:11:09 GMT

Hello Sarah
Yes it was a dark path that led me to the phyciatric hospital. It was like nothing I expected. It needs so much work and urgent attention not to mention funding. It failed many people including myself on so many levels but am glad we still have some support in place (some nurses are amazing).
No not currently able to work. The thought of not working is a trigger for me I get a cloud like feeling that seeps in through my head and slowly takes over.

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Tay100 — Wed, 23 Dec 2020 05:29:14 GMT

Hi Soulofthoughtz

Just thought I'd stop by and see how you are travelling- I see that not being able to work and being in the hospital has been hard but there have been some lovely staff to help get you through, which is lovely to hear. How is your little friend going? Have the RSPCA been helpful?

Tay100