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Have no motivation

Rex323 — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 05:08:36 GMT

Hey

Need some ideas as I have no motivation and feel like a failure.I do get thoughts of self harm but I wouldn’t go through with any of it. I am off work at the moment as I can not deal with it at the moment

Have no motivation

Sophie_M — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 05:14:24 GMT

Hey Rex323,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums,

We're sorry to hear how low you feel at the moment and that you've been having thoughts of self-harm. Do you feel comfortable to share more with us about why you feel like a failure? We're sorry to hear you feel this way. Please know that you've come to a safe space to talk about these thoughts and feelings and our wonderful community is here to offer as much support and advice as you need.

If you feel up to it, we'd also recommend getting in touch with our Support Service which is available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or you can visit on our website www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport for online chat. One of our professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area.

Please keep checking in with us here whenever you feel up to it.

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white knight — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 05:03:09 GMT

Hi, welcome

I've found self motivation a real problem for many years regardless of being such a positive person overall.

Here is a couple of threads that might help you. You only need to read the first post of each.

Hope that helps. Reply anytime

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/30-minutes-can-change-your-life#qhg8V3HzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/depression/depression-and-the-timing-of-motivation#qjLqEHHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/switching-mindsets#qnJ_inHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

TonyWK

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Guest_4643 — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 11:42:56 GMT

hey rex323, welcome.

i'm sorry you have no motivation and you feel like a failure, and self harm/have the urge to.

please know you're not a failure, and you're not alone, i also have thoughts of that and the urges, and feel like a failure.

are you safe?

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therising — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 11:38:37 GMT

Hi Rex323

I feel for you so much as you face some significant challenges in your life. It can really be tough when we're in need of some solid guidance and there just doesn't seem to be a lot of people around us helping us find that guidance and difference we need. I'm glad you came here on your quest.

As a way of me managing not revisiting depression, I've become a fairly analytical gal. As I say to people, I analyse the hell out of a lot things, so as to get to more heavenly states of living. 'I'm such a failure' is one of those statements I've analysed the hell out of 🙂

I've managed to replace 'I'm such a failure' with 'What am I failing to do or see?' Sometimes there can be a lot going on at the same time, to the point where it can feel overwhelming:

I'm failing to find the right people who can make the difference I desperately need right now
I'm failing to address why my energy levels are so low, to the point where I feel dysfunctional
I'm failing to find what truly will excite/energise me. I'm repeating the same ventures, not adding ventures (adventuring)
I'm failing to find a way of altering my perception
I'm failing to let go of certain things, beliefs and/or people that are holding me back
I'm failing to figure out what the heck this monumental challenge in my life is really about

Sometimes all this can be going on at once in my life. While a breakdown is not a fun experience, often it can lead to a break down of factors I may need to be looking at individually. Kind of like deconstructing a puzzle. If I can break things down before I hit the absolute peak of intolerance, I can save putting my mind and body through the wringer (a sudden overwhelming breakdown).

Might sound a bit weird but I find there's a difference between thinking and wondering. As an example, I could be thinking 'I'm so tired, so exhausted. I can't handle this anymore'. I've discovered that thinking this never really gets me anywhere. I may then begin wondering...'Why do I have no energy? I wonder what forms of energy I need to be putting into myself before I can feel a difference. I wonder how many types and how much of each is going to really make a difference'.

I know it sounds a little airy fairy but I've discovered that becoming more wonderful (wonder full) can be mind altering and life changing at times. Wondering prompts our natural ability to open our mind and have inspiration/revelations come in. Thinking can, at times, do nothing but bring us down.

🙂

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geoff — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 18:08:03 GMT

Hello Rex, welcome to the forums and pleased you've had many replies.

Having no motivation at all is a terrible feeling and because of this it could then involve so many different issues that can change by the hour, day or even weekly from past experiences, but it's something which you should never blame yourself for because there maybe reasons why this happens which you are unaware of or perhaps you just don't have the strength to achieve or to even contemplate.

These may join up with each other or one maybe too strong in itself to stop any joy of trying to proceed in an effort for you to accomplish or perhaps something minor may begin which leads to being a major problem that will cause you in having no motivation.

I'm positive this has happened to all the people struggling with different concerns, especially a type of depression.

It doesn't mean you're a failure at all, what it does say is that you need help, so please get back to us when you're available.

Geoff.