topic Miscarriage Struggle in PTSD and trauma

Miscarriage Struggle

Tezza_101 — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 07:58:30 GMT

ok so this is harder then I thought it would be..

Hoping to get some advice.

So last year in August I had a missed miscarriage. I was not in a serious relationship so no support from a partner.

When I found out I was pregnant I started seeing a GP weekly as I have struggled with depression for as long as I can remember, I'm 34 yrs old. My GP specialises in mental health, so after my missed miscarriage which has destroyed me, I continued to see my GP weekly. But instead of talking about the miscarriage he wanted to do EMDR therapy, so starting from the beginning of my depression/life. Which I found very difficult to put aside what had just happened and try to focus on the past. I stuck with it until recently and we still had not reached the topic of the miscarriage.

I am wondering if this was the right approach?

I'm feeling let down and like I had no support with what happened. I no longer talk to any of my friends who have kids, I still haven't gone to visit my sister and meet her 2nd child who will be 1 year old next month. I just cant bring myself to do any of it. But I also feel like its been nearly a year since it happened and that I should just be over it now.

How do I just get over it and move on?

Miscarriage Struggle

quirkywords — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 10:06:52 GMT

Tezza

welcome to the forum.

I am sorry for your loss and acknowledge your pain.

Someone close to me had a miscarriage and found it hard to find support and people didn’t know what to say.

She found the pink elephants support network very helpful.
www.pinkelephants.org.au

The site has information and support.

Tezza when you start talking to people you will find miscarriage is more common than you thought.

You suffered a great loss and you need time and support to work through your emotions.
Pink elephants have volunteer support ambassadors who help other women by sharing their stories.

You are not alone and there is support here.
Feel free to post here as much as you like.

Miscarriage Struggle

Katyonthehamsterwheel — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 10:36:06 GMT

Hi there

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I had a m/c 20 months ago and I still find it hard. I'm not over it. I don't think there's a set time to be over it, and perhaps you never will be, but you'll be more ok with the things that trigger a response in you. I found talking about it to be super helpful, and I actually talked to anyone who would listen. Quirky is correct in that it's more common than you think, and once you start sharing (if that's what you want to do) you'll find out just how common it is. I talked to 3 friends and they said "me too", and I'd not known that they'd been through it too.

When it comes to therapy, I'm of the strong opinion that we should lead the way. That's not what's happened for you. Do you feel like you could ask for what you want to happen?

If you want to talk about your loss here, I'd love to be here to listen to whatever you want to share. If you don't, that's ok too. Sending you the kindest of kind thoughts. I'm sorry you didn't have the support you needed, when you needed it x