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PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:23:02 GMT

hi im new here im 23 engaged and have a 4 yr old i suffer from GAD, PTSD, social anxiety and panic disorder

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

SadboiArt — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:50:06 GMT

Welcome to the community flowerpetals,

This is a wonderful place to vent, get ideas, advice and clear your mind. I have found the people online here are wonderful, compassionate and have their own stories and experience to share and draw from. These forums and their subscribers have helped me through some tough times and I've in turn helped others.

Happy writing

See you around

KaraArtist

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 05:05:52 GMT

Hi flowerpetal's

Welcome on board. My you sound like you have a few things on your plate. This is a great forum to chat to others who are sharing some or even all of your issues.

I love little ones, I'm nuts about my 2 yearly grandson, four year olds are so adorable and you're engaged too, congratulations. Are you into wedding planning as yet?

I am guessing that some of your issues may be raising their ugly heads at the moment do you want to share a little more information about what you are going through? Even a vent is fine with us, no judgement.

Lovely to meet you!

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 05:27:05 GMT

im not doing wedding plans as of yet as most of my family actually trigger some of my attacks so im waiting till i can handle big events as i still have trouble with birthdays. i have been through the works as a child ive been through physical abuse, emotional abuse, environmental abuse and sexual abuse i've been in and out of court rooms since i was 3 and in and out of foster homes and hospitals i finally have stability at my inlaws but i keep getting called back to court i have five younger siblings and five older step siblings i see a psychologist every 2 weeks who is currently working with me on the resentment i have towards my mother i currently study in studying a diploma in counselling but recent situations have caused set backs and a believe that i will not be able to catch up sufficiently enough for them give me an extension and keep me enrolled

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Cold_Mirror — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 09:17:49 GMT

Welcome flowerpetals. I'm glad that you made the decision to join us. 🙂 I'm sorry that you've been through such a traumatic time. You are doing the right thing by doing
some work with a psychologist.

Please don't give up on your course just yet. I've worked in unis and TAFE as well as having studied several times. If you have a talk to them about how you're falling behind, they might be able to help you out. You would be surprised how accommodating these places can be. Mostly, they want people to succeed and finish the course. The most important thing is to talk to them sooner rather than later.

Thank you for sharing so much about yourself. It's a big step. Keep on posting - there are lots of friendly ears here at BB.

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Guest_322 — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 14:34:23 GMT

Hi Flowerpetals,

The abuse and subsequent trauma must be excruciating. PTSD is horrific; it's like the nightmare is relived time and time again.

It's so admirable that despite all your pain, you still want to help others by entering the counselling profession. You have a very big heart. And who better than someone like you who "gets it" to enter that profession?

Sadly, sometimes things and life can become a bit much and affect your studies. I like Cold_Mirror's advice to talk to the teaching staff at TAFE. I think it's something worth considering.

Much love and support.

- Dottie

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 03:19:40 GMT

Hi Flower,

I'm so sorry that you've had such tough start to life. You have certainly been through the works, it's no wonder that you are struggling. It is hard to overcome a grotty childhood but we can make some changes to make our lives better. After all it is our life and no-one else gets to dictate how we Iive our adult lives. It takes strength , which you clearly have to have survived this far.

You have been brave enough at a young age to face your past, good work and congratulations. I admire that even though you are frightened and in some ways disabled by your past you are trying to move past it.

Well done on finding a counsellor, your man and lovely inlaws. I'm pleased you have some support around you. It does sound like there is even more to this tale. a family of 11 children is huge for this day and age. You say you're called back to court too. On top of all that you have a child and are trying to study. Oh my goodness so much to do and so little time.

It would be so great to finish your course and as Cold M said the education people may be abel o help more than you think, you have good case. Can you chat to the disability officer? It's probably hard to talk to a stranger but you'll need to let them in on how hard life is for you are the moment for them to help. Mental health issues are a disability.

Just a little suggestion, feel free to ignore it, Maybe you could write a list of all the things that you are trying to accomplish at the moment and prioritise by what is the most important thing in your life to do at the moment. It may be that you are trying to do too much. It is stressful trying to come to terms with your past. Speaking of which, have you a nice GP? Have you checked whether some medication would help to make life bit easier for you?

Lastly, please know that this is just a rotten moment, your past is past and in time and your strength will shine through. There will be a day when life will be easier and you will be able to congratulate yourself on succeeding.

Take heart, here's a little hug for you. x

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 03:41:37 GMT

i have talked to my tutor and he try to help as much as possible but the branch manager is making it difficult with strict rules of meeting deadline requirement or there is no extension i only have 3 units left but it getting to be really difficult to balance out study and home at the same time as keeping myself together

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 07:37:54 GMT

Hi,

Of course it is difficult, don't give yourself hard time. You do get to b human with all the flaws that comes along with!

If you pull out of the course how long do you get to re-enter without losing the units you have done to date? Does that make sense? If you have completed x units and take a break can you go back next semester without losing any credit you already have for the units you have completed?

A big priority has to be looking after yourself. I gather since you are clear on the mental issues you are facing you do have some medical support? What about a trip to your GP to discuss how you are feeling and see if there are any medications that would help? Don't be ashamed we all need different sorts of help. I take antidepressants and will for the rest of my life, but that's okay because I am living. Others just need to take them for a short while everyone is different.

One step at a time and you'll get there.

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 07:39:14 GMT

PS. I meant to ask about your picture. It's lovely, did you design it?

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 07:48:59 GMT

no i found the pic on google i love flowers especially colourful ones as for my course i really dont know it hasnt been the best studying experience for me as ive had 5 different tutors they keep changing and each one has a different teaching style and the collage its self has gone through so many changes to try and stay open its a real possibility that it could close b4 i get to finish even though they keep telling us that they arent and just had low numbers but its so crowded i just think that its stressing me out to try and cope with the load

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 08:01:37 GMT

Umm, it seems the course is a super high stress in your life and something to think about. Maybe this is a time just to concentrate on looking after yourself and your immediate priorities.

Can you talk to your man about all of this and make a decision together?

What do you think will happen if you pull out of the course?

Importantly take some slow deep breathes, breath in for the count of 4 and out for the count of 4, slowly.

One step at time. xx

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 08:22:09 GMT

well i do no that i can transfer to a better tafe if youve heard of evocca than you may know why im worried the worst that could happen is that i would have to completely start again but yes it is becoming a major stressor

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Guest_322 — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 08:34:27 GMT

Aw my heart goes out to you. On top of everything else that you're going through, your course is definitely adding to your stress.

Yeah, it can be challenging when there isn't a consistent teaching styles between tutors- it can add extra pressure.

Maybe Wednesday's suggestion of talking to a disability officer would be helpful as they look after students with mental health issue. I'm not sure if it's the same at TAFE but I know at my uni, there's generally more flexibility re: extensions, etc if you see the disability officer.

Much love and support,

Dottie

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 10:18:56 GMT

unfortunately they do not have a disability officer there otherwise i probs might be having an easier time there

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Guest_322 — Tue, 16 Aug 2016 12:01:13 GMT

That's awful that they don't have a disability officer. You mentioned something about the possibility of transferring to a different TAFE.

I wonder if they have Recognition of Prior Learning where they consider your completed (relevant) units and won't make you repeat them? Like your old units count towards a new qualification, and you only need to complete the balance of units for your course. It might be worthwhile speaking to an admissions officer at a TAFE (if you want to transfer).

Thinking of you and sorry that you're going through such a rough time.

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 04:53:26 GMT

Hi Flower,

Sorry I haven't heard of Evoca. But is it the biggest issue you are facing? Sometimes we have to take a detour to get places. You have so much going on. Are you able to chat with your hubby to be about all that is going on for you?

If you look at all that you have going on what is the most important thing for you to work on or solve, is it the course or is that a bit of a red herring?

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flowerpetals — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 09:01:39 GMT

hi wednesday,

i can understand what your saying but to be honest i really dont know the main thing i focus on is keeping my son happy and healthy and everything else just whirls around i dont talk to my partner much since his dad went through treatment for cancer it makes me feel bad putting stuff on him when hes dealing with so much already

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

Wednesday — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 23:02:43 GMT

Hi Flower,

Focusing on your son is a good thing and probably one of your more rewarding things, I hope you get lots of cuddles.

You can only do what you can do. Supporting your man and his family in a tough time, while trying to manage your own issues takes a to of energy. Let's take a step back.

Can you see a doctor and talk to them about how you feel? Your high level of anxiety is not going to make it easy for you to make decisions and there are medications the may help yo fell a bit more in control. You may be taking meds but they may not be working effectively, another reason to speak to your doctor.

You need to look after yourself. You have lovely people around you and a son, all who seem to need you a the moment, no wonder it feels like things are whirling around you.

Just take a step at a time, it will all work its way out.

PTSD attacks being triggered, struggling with study and parenting

flowerpetals — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 23:30:54 GMT

thanks wednesday i have been on meds but because of side effects i stopped taking them i do see a psychologist which does help a little but she seems more focused on my past instead of my present