topic Violent Ex/My sons father is Released from jail in PTSD and trauma

Violent Ex/My sons father is Released from jail

BelleAnthony2014 — Sat, 31 Jan 2015 11:19:14 GMT

I had a very tough domestic violence situation last year and was threatened with death threats and a break an enter when i was 11 weeks pregnant. My ex (residing in aus) was deported back to his birth country.

Now, being pregnant with all my hormones I decided I could forgive him when I was 16 weeks pregnant. Silly me.

He ends up in jail when I was 28 weeks pregnant. And now my son is 5 months old and his dad is being released a few weeks.

On the plus side, it is unlikely he's able to return but his father (babys grandad) resides in aus so the likelihood of abduction is also very high.

My problem is I've been very civil, sending photos to his mother and keeping the peace as know this is favored in a court setting. He wants me to go to his country with my son so they can meet. I think you can see my concern as to why I dont want to.

Should I literally just cut off contact with them all or stand my ground? I have extreme anxiety and OCD thoughts so you can see why I'm having a time letting this go.

He's on the birth cert becaise they managed to track him down and I didn't want my child growing up thinking he was fatherless.

I've been far too nice and lenient so how can I turn this around?

Violent Ex/My sons father is Released from jail

Pixie15 — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 06:53:13 GMT

Hi BelleAnthony2014,

This is a tough situation and it seems to me you may need more professional help to deal with it. I think if you call the Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 656 463 you may be able to find out some support services which could help you.

Hope you find a suitable solution.

Grateful.

Violent Ex/My sons father is Released from jail

geoff — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 13:46:14 GMT

dear BelleAnthony, I'd like to welcome you to the site.

Your comment is a very precarious one, and does need legal advice, but there's no way I would trust the father nor the grand father.

I would believe that he may have rights to see his son but I think it would be only be under supervision, even so I wouldn't feel comfortable at all, so there would be many precautions that you would have to prepare yourself for, but legal advice would be better to do this.

This chap would have a nasty track record and should never be trusted one bit. L Geoff. x