https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/repeated-failed-ivf-cycles/m-p/603933#M23848 <P>Hi. I need advice and guidance on how to deal with overcoming multiple failed IVF cycles.&nbsp; The book is closed on trying any more due to age etc...&nbsp; &nbsp; but I am left with emotional scars that feel like they will never go away. I'm stuck in just being upset and don't know how to move through this stage.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P> Wed, 04 Dec 2024 00:53:02 GMT KindnessIsFree 2024-12-04T00:53:02Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/repeated-failed-ivf-cycles/m-p/603933#M23848 <P>Hi. I need advice and guidance on how to deal with overcoming multiple failed IVF cycles.&nbsp; The book is closed on trying any more due to age etc...&nbsp; &nbsp; but I am left with emotional scars that feel like they will never go away. I'm stuck in just being upset and don't know how to move through this stage.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P> Wed, 04 Dec 2024 00:53:02 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/repeated-failed-ivf-cycles/m-p/603933#M23848 KindnessIsFree 2024-12-04T00:53:02Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/repeated-failed-ivf-cycles/m-p/603945#M23849 <P>Hi, welcome</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I have a relative about to enter the program. She has told me she is prepared if not successful in having a child and although thats comforting it cant be a result she would swallow lightly.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>This is a traumatic time whereby, really the only answer is to reset yourself and find enjoyment in life. That could include-</P><P>&nbsp;</P><UL><LI>Traditional hobbies and sports</LI><LI>Focussing on nephews and nieces</LI><LI>Fostering a child</LI><LI>An interest like travelling international or caravanning here.</LI></UL><P>Like all emotional scars they only drift away with time and that can be helped along with therapy. Therapy can highlight the positives in life eg I am bipolar, under the autism spectrum and have depression, my therapist once said "but you can walk and use tools- yes"? It hit home and it always does when I see less fortunate people on the TV. Your scars are very deep so this might not feel an advantage just now but might make sense if practiced.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>My MIL had a foster son, she raised him since 3yo and now is 21. MIL passed away 3 years ago so we took on the deed. He had brought nothing but happiness to our lives. It could be something to consider because no doubt you have a lot of love to share. And adoption?</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I'm not the ideal person to answer your post but I do hope I've given you something to think about. Try to be kind to yourself, life can be so hard for us we have to remember to focus on a bee collecting nectar or hold a marshmellow over a campfire to refocus the important things in life always there.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>TonyWK</P> Wed, 04 Dec 2024 04:25:06 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/repeated-failed-ivf-cycles/m-p/603945#M23849 white knight 2024-12-04T04:25:06Z