https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/general-question-for-anyone-who-has-experienced-sexual-assault/m-p/599259#M23657 <P>Hi, I was violently sexually assaulted as a 9 yr old by 2 guys. Despite much counselling from a brilliant specialist I had (and still can't 50+ years on) never been unable to forgive my 9 yr old self for a really dumb decision which has had ongoing effects since that day. Logically I know that it wasn't my fault but it was ... I didn't ask for what happened to happen, but I did decide to go a path that I was not supposed to go unless i had friends with me. So yes, it was my fault.</P><P>However my question is -- I have told only 1 un-medical person ever (the medicals in the know are either dead or my current GP -- and the un-medical person is dead now also. (Sad, but I am relieved)&nbsp;</P><P>I have been married for 45+ years and have never told my husband anything about my experience.&nbsp;</P><P>I think that to tell him now would actually destroy our relationship trust-wise because he would be devastated that I am too scared of his reaction to be able to be open and honest with him.</P><P>So what is the point?</P><P>Interested to know the thoughts of others - particularly those in the same situation. Thanks.</P> Sat, 07 Sep 2024 01:52:39 GMT Shosh 2024-09-07T01:52:39Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/general-question-for-anyone-who-has-experienced-sexual-assault/m-p/599259#M23657 <P>Hi, I was violently sexually assaulted as a 9 yr old by 2 guys. Despite much counselling from a brilliant specialist I had (and still can't 50+ years on) never been unable to forgive my 9 yr old self for a really dumb decision which has had ongoing effects since that day. Logically I know that it wasn't my fault but it was ... I didn't ask for what happened to happen, but I did decide to go a path that I was not supposed to go unless i had friends with me. So yes, it was my fault.</P><P>However my question is -- I have told only 1 un-medical person ever (the medicals in the know are either dead or my current GP -- and the un-medical person is dead now also. (Sad, but I am relieved)&nbsp;</P><P>I have been married for 45+ years and have never told my husband anything about my experience.&nbsp;</P><P>I think that to tell him now would actually destroy our relationship trust-wise because he would be devastated that I am too scared of his reaction to be able to be open and honest with him.</P><P>So what is the point?</P><P>Interested to know the thoughts of others - particularly those in the same situation. Thanks.</P> Sat, 07 Sep 2024 01:52:39 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/general-question-for-anyone-who-has-experienced-sexual-assault/m-p/599259#M23657 Shosh 2024-09-07T01:52:39Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/general-question-for-anyone-who-has-experienced-sexual-assault/m-p/599262#M23658 <P>Im sad angry absolutely outraged this has happened to you. &nbsp;I wont say too much because I want to have respect for you asking for others with this experience to reply.</P><P>Punishment for going down a path without friends would be grounded for a week or no TV tonight or a talking to from mum.</P><P>No 9 year and no adult deserves this to happen.</P><P>No child is responsible for what happened to you.</P><P>This person who hurt you is a monster and Im sorry its still hurting you</P> Sat, 07 Sep 2024 02:13:55 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/ptsd-and-trauma/general-question-for-anyone-who-has-experienced-sexual-assault/m-p/599262#M23658 Scared 2024-09-07T02:13:55Z