topic Re: life transitions! in PTSD and trauma

life transitions!

Flower Earth angel — Wed, 01 Dec 2021 12:49:05 GMT

i cant cope with the changes in my life

ptsd/disabitlies/ emotional dysregulation/ sensory ear disorder

depression

i cant let go of my cat to be buried

i live alone and not ready to invite a random ndis worker in my home to help me to decide waht to do

any suggestions

goodnight

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Summer Rose — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 00:04:02 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your cat. I know the pain of losing a beloved pet and it’s awful. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this, particularly at this time of year.

When you are ready, if I was in your shoes, I would plan to deal with the remains as soon as possible.

One option is bury your cat. I’m wondering how you would feel about that? Perhaps in your garden and you could set up a memorial? You don’t have to ask a random ndis worker to help, perhaps a family member, neighbour or friend could assist?

If not, you could speak with your vet about cremation.

I know this is really hard, but I’m here to offer support as much as is helpful to you.

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 07:20:26 GMT

hi summer rose.

i know my options

i think i need to prcess the grief first thats what would work

i believe i am resposnisble for his early death and i dont know how to process it

well me and the negligence of the supports who were supposed to help me

so i have more time to look after my cat

i dont have anyone close i could bury him and i rent is that allowed i dont want to move and his here

i know there are cemeteries

im so sick of the bad luck in my life since i was 23 im 38 i can never get a break

god bless you summer rose

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Summer Rose — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 11:01:21 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

Yes, of course, you need to process your feelings. Grief is a process, so please give yourself time and be kind to yourself as you work through it.

Please try not to judge yourself harshly. It sounds like it was a complex situation and I’m sure you did your best to look after your cat.

Life can be really hard sometimes and it’s harder for some than others. I’m sorry that it’s so unfair.

Do you want to talk about your pet? What was your cat’s name?

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 11:03:29 GMT

chatting to lifeline now

no i dont

my ptsd is bad

in christian love

christine

thankyou

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Flower Earth angel — Fri, 03 Dec 2021 07:07:05 GMT

GOsh i dont understand how people process grief

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Summer Rose — Fri, 03 Dec 2021 07:45:50 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

I have lost many people and animals who I have loved dearly through my almost 60 years on our planet. Each experience has been different—some an unbearable shock, some expected, some a horrible tragedy and others a blessing in disguise. What is common is the pain of grief, which is unfortunately unavoidable.

Sometimes I have found I just need to sit with my grief and cry. Sometimes I have put a limit on how long I will think about my loss each day and then force myself to push on. Sometimes I need to take considerable time to reflect.

Talking about the loss is helpful to me. So is writing. I also find placing photos of those I have lost around my home to be really helpful. Sometimes I talk to the loved one I have lost. I don’t know why but I find it comforting.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You will find what works for you over time. Be kind to yourself.

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Fri, 03 Dec 2021 10:39:07 GMT

thanku

i am familiar with grief but in a different form thru narcissitc abuse i lost my self so i have been grieving the effectgs of doemstic violence for years

i already do thigns u mentioned even for my pet but it doesnt work so i will stop

i think i need to move the space has to many memories

and the neighbours here really made my life and my cats life hard and

i am in the BLAME and anger phase........................

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Summer Rose — Fri, 03 Dec 2021 11:30:37 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

You do you, blame and anger it is then. But please be open to change when it feels right to you.

I’m sorry you had to endure domestic abuse. You are a clearly survivor. I really wish life hadn’t been so hard for you.

I hope you are proud of yourself for getting free. For working to find yourself. For taking back your life. I applaud your courage.

A fresh start sounds like a good idea. Any idea where you’d like to go?

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Sat, 04 Dec 2021 06:38:46 GMT

yes anger and blame

and injustice

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Flower Earth angel — Sat, 04 Dec 2021 06:39:54 GMT

im proud i posted in the suicide group

thats took me 6 years to do

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Flower Earth angel — Sat, 04 Dec 2021 09:11:39 GMT

oh they deleted the post said i had this post here and it was too similar

i may need to delete this post

😕

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Summer Rose — Sat, 04 Dec 2021 09:13:49 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

If you need to delete this post, I understand.

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Sun, 05 Dec 2021 02:58:06 GMT

its ok i guess

i didn tknow u cant post in two groups

can i ask what ur thoughts are about getting a kitten this time not adult cat taht looks like him

or i am thinking foster caring is probably better for my circumstances

but not now i mean in the future

i cried for hours last night remebering moments and ill be hoesnt it felt worst letting it out

and my ear disorder and ptsd got worse

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Summer Rose — Sun, 05 Dec 2021 12:28:29 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

Sounds like it’s really rough right now. Hugs to you.

Does talking to lifeline help? Please don’t hesitate to ring them if you need support or 000 in an emergency.

I hope you are able to at least sleep. A good night’s sleep would be really helpful right now.

Kittens are totally gorgeous but a lot of work and an enormous commitment. I like the idea of fostering a cat —at least until you’re feeling a bit better.

After my last dog died it took me a year to be ready to get another. But so glad I did.

Hang in there.

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Mon, 06 Dec 2021 13:05:43 GMT

i had him 1.5 years nearly

but it felt like the whole 12.5 years

i did some research and it said cats live 12-15 years i think i didnt realise this and thought 19 but that is very rare and depedns on the breed.

i had a cry now but it felt needed i also realised i have videos of him and that made me feel safe

im sure my ptsd will trigger more painful moments andi need to be careful who i open up to

🙂

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Summer Rose — Tue, 07 Dec 2021 10:29:47 GMT

I’m so happy that you found the videos and that it made you feel safe.

I’m sure that you and your cat had many precious moments over the time you were together. I think it’s lovely that you could care for your pet in her/his later years. It would be so sad for any animal to be alone when old and vulnerable.

Hope today was a better day for you 🙂

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 02:23:39 GMT

i got a grief counsellor for pets

but she is triggering my disabitleis and ptsd

need to work on blame and guilt

god bless

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Summer Rose — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 12:12:23 GMT

Hi Flower Earth Angel

I think it’s great that you found a grief counsellor. Perhaps if you gently provide the counsellor with some feedback it will become a more positive experience for you.

I hear you with regard to blame and guilt. My advice is to let it go. I know that’s easier said than done but just keep working on it. You’ll get there.

Kind thoughts to you

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Flower Earth angel — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 06:32:22 GMT

is it wrong to get another pet that looks similar to my old cat

i think withmy existing mental health issues and other disabilties the blame and guilt will always be there