topic sexual abuse in PTSD and trauma

sexual abuse

julsey — Sat, 19 May 2018 07:04:50 GMT

not getting into to much detail i need to know how to forget about an incident.

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startingnew — Sat, 19 May 2018 07:50:29 GMT

Hi Julsey

I dont think youll ever forget the trauma however you can heal from it with the right supports.

Have you spoken to anyone about this incident at all like Police?

Do you have supports in place to help you to heal like a psychologist?

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Ggrand — Sat, 19 May 2018 08:40:31 GMT

Hello Julsey,

Welcome to BB Forums..

I don't think you will ever forget.

With the help of your gp, and professional councilling you can heal.

Trying to heal yourself without any professional help is so hard to do..

Do you have family or friends that you can talk to that can maybe help you..

Your welcome to talk here anytime you feel like it..

Please if it's okay and you want to. Let us know how you are going..

Those few words on your post, I get a feeling that you are really struggling with this.. Please take care and talk here anytime you want to..

Kind thoughts,

Grandy..

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julsey — Sun, 20 May 2018 08:48:07 GMT

yeah i go to three psychs but i dont want to have to keep thinking about it over and over again. they make me talk bout it and i hate it so much. i dont want to go to police because i dont want to have to say anything else about it i just want it to go away

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Guest8901 — Sun, 20 May 2018 09:27:04 GMT

Oh Julsey, I so understand what you are saying. I really feel for you because I have been through a sexual assault too. Just like you, I just wanted it all to go away. For me that was 22 years ago. Much as I tried, it never went away. It only got worse. Only recently I sought professional help for the first time. If I knew then, what I know now, I would definitely advise anyone going through this situation to persist with psyc assistance. It may help prevent many years of psychological torment.

Involving the police is a very personal decision, and one I am not about to influence you on. Personally I didnt, which I still believe was the right decision for me at the time. Keep in mind however, that the statute of limitations for laying charges for sexual assault does not expire. So there is no urgency to decide now.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

Kindest thoughts to you. 🌺

Amanda

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geoff — Sun, 20 May 2018 19:46:19 GMT

Hi Julsey, I'm really sorry for what happened to you and understand that you only want it to go away, but perhaps going to visit 3 psychs maybe good, but they may differ on their approach which could confuse you, making it difficult for you to put to rest.

You may mention what one psych said to another one, then questions could be said disputing that idea, so who are you to believe.

My best wishes.

Geoff.

I would choose one that you like the most, someone who can settle your mind, to feel at ease in trying to put it all behind you.

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darkbetty — Mon, 21 May 2018 08:31:12 GMT

Julesy I completely get you.

I long for that sense of relief as well.

There will be a time when you don’t think about it at all, where it no longer creeps up on you and drains you of your energy. What happened to you doesn’t define you, it certainly has an impact and I am sorry that you’ve had to endure this.

Please be kind to yourself, cry as much as you need to, be angry as much as you need to. Set boundaries and do one thing every day that makes you feel good about yourself.

You deserve that ❤️

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Sara_P — Tue, 22 May 2018 09:18:53 GMT

Hey Julesy, I feel you!

Sometimes talking over and over can feel like you're stuck in a mouse wheel. The repetition drives you crazy and you don't feel like anything changes. I'm glad though that through all of this, you have come on here to talk, and I hope you continue too. I too have lived through sexual assault, it is hard and for a long time I did not address it. It was through opening up to a friend that some of the weight felt removed.

I know that you mentioned you see a few psychologists, but I was wondering about other support around you? maybe a parent, friend or relative, someone you trust and would feel comfortable confining in.

Sending love and hugs

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julsey — Tue, 22 May 2018 12:46:53 GMT

i can't sleep, struggling to eat and drink and yet my parents are still making me go to school and im struggling to concentrate on my classes but if i dont i will fail year 10 and i cant repeat and its kinda all going to pieces.

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startingnew — Tue, 22 May 2018 13:09:41 GMT

Hi Julsey

Ireally think its time you get some help. These emotions and memories cant just be forgotten. They need to be worked through. You can shove them down however they will come back unless you address them.

Its not an overnight fix unfortunately even though we all wish it was.

Do you think youll be able to talk to your parents, or a school teacher or someone else that you trust?

You are clearly struggling and i worry about the path this overwhlem will take you. Please ask for help and support. There are services out there to help you too.

Your not alone in this ❤

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Ggrand — Tue, 22 May 2018 13:17:13 GMT

Hello Julsey,

Please can you take in deep breaths counting in for 1-2-3-4-5... then out for 5-4-3-2-1. Keep breathing deeply until you calm down a little..

Cannyou put your phone on to a instrumental with your earphones in, don't have your phone on charge..now turn it up then select an instrument and follow that instrument right through, hopefully you will fall asleep before it finishes..

Julsey, you must eat..it's a must especially with depression,you need the nutrition from the food to help heal your mind..

Do you have a school health officer at your school that you can talk to, and tell him/her how your feeling..or can you ask your parents to sit down and then have a talk to them and let them know how your feeling, or if you find it hard to talk about your feelings, maybe write them out on paper and show them to your parents ..or you could even show your parents this thread of yours...that way they can read through it..

please take care of yourself..and try when your feeling anxious to take som deep breaths..Please let us know how you got on..

Warm hugs xx🤗.

Grandy..

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CloudyKayla — Sat, 23 Jun 2018 07:59:27 GMT

Hi julsey,

ive also been sexually abused around your age and I did forget, I suppressed the memories so much I had no recollection, but recently something triggered me and now I remember everything and because I never dealt with it or even accepted it had happened now I’m a mess and have no idea how to move forward. It is so incredibly brave of you to be seeing people to help you and I wish I had your strength.