I'm so done with everything

Guest_25599980 — Mon, 21 Sep 2026 12:58:46 GMT

I'm just so done, every year gets worse and worse. This year, my dad got into a car crash that could have killed him, luckily it didn't. My 14yr old sister tried to kill herself, came out to me that she smokes cigarettes and a plethora of other things, then ran away from home(I don't live with her). Then I got into a big fight with my bio mum about how she was treating my sister, her daughter, calling her selfish and a horrible person using my sisters animal against her to get her back home. Which worked because she is living with them again. That fight ended up with my mother and little brother giving me the silent treatment, they didn't talk to me for about 3 months maybe. All this happened and then the parent I live with(my offset parents, I ran away at 16 and I am 21 now) got mad at me because I didn't clean for one day out of the entire year and she lost it at me, she started to yell at me and then threw a brush at me. Nothing I say or do will make her happy. She always threatens to kick me out and stuff like that. I don't really have anywhere to go or any money. They did talk to me abt saving but this last month has been really expensive, I had my bffs birthday and my own as well as capricon. Also forgot to mention I study a bachelor full-time and work casual while having to basically act as a full-time cleaner and do extra stuff for my bffs sister.

I think they are gonna kick me out, im just so tired.. I want to fall asleep and never wake up.

Re: I'm so done with everything

white knight — Tue, 22 Sep 2026 03:52:25 GMT

Hi, welcome

A tough time for you. You have a lot going on.

So, here is a few things I learned with lived experience on the issues you've raised.

"Charity begins at home". Meaning you cant help other people unless you get your own life in order. Only then can you utilise your stability in order to advise other people. Caring for ourselves is crucial.
Standing up for others is so admirable especially your younger siblings. Your challenge is to keep the communication up with them at all times to such a level that they will feel free to contact you when trouble is there like leaving home.
Not every time is ideal to stand up for others, sometimes its better to advise them and not go into bat for them. Even when you do it can be done in a calm manner. After all you are the negotiator not the bonded representative.
You've identified abusive behaviour eg using your sisters animal against her like emotional blackmail. That is just not on. But again better to say to your mother "mum it isnt right to use that as blackmail, can you please see how wrong that is"? Notice how it is put in question format? So persuasion is better than conflict.
Emergency accommodation. If you are kicked out then contact lifeline or the number at the bottom of this page or the Salvation Army. Those times will come in your life and they can help.
Dont worry too much about younger siblings and their silent treatment, possible they are hearing one side of a story. They are too young to realise and they will change and forget about it. You are the adult at this time, they are still kids.
Your offset parents could be living on edge, they might have issues, sometimes its best to swallow the criticism, go and do the cleaning and front up and say "sorry I forgot about it yesterday". Just do it, life is tolerating others and at this time you might need to tolerate their criticism, hard as it is.
Save, save for a place of your own, work hard, extra shifts etc. Your financial security gives you freedom.

I hope that helps. There's a heap to admire about you, your devotion and work ethic, being 50 years older than you just gives me the wisdom to survive those sorts of problems you face much easier because I've lived them.

Good luck.

TonyWK

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