This is prolly really stupid

Guest_65917790 — Fri, 18 Sep 2026 17:22:51 GMT

Ive grown up with ADHD my entire life, and I know how my brain works, but this one leader at you youths apparently thinks she knows it better. Okay, so last week at youth group they started a rule to turn off your phone during small groups. I told her that I need it to focus (because my mind had been yelling that night, so I was sketching on Ibis while listening) she said no no put it down, I can't leave you off the rule of everyone will do it. Okay yeah, but I have a disability sooo. Anyways I told her sorry that she feels it but with my ADHD ive tried other fidgets and this so far is the bestest one that works, being on my phone held be be able to actually process words instead of hear them and she starts saying that it's now how ADHD works? Girl, I'm the one who grew up with this. I told here there are different types of ADHD she says yeah but ADHD doesn't work that way... do you have my mind girl. Anyways this week I go again, I'm just going to keep the light dull and play subway surfers as I listen so I can focus, she again says to turn off the phone, but ive been having a bad night, my brain is overwhelmed, so I out on my headphones, a thing ive told them means I'm overstimulated, and she just keeps telling me to turn off my phone then gets upset that I'm ignoring her so I had to sit outside the youth Hall. I'm sorry this just really annoyed me, I have no clue how to get the message through to her that my phone is the only thing Ive found so far that makes me actually able to process words, like before with a different thing, yeah I hear but I don't understand, but with my phone I can process, understand, and respond, especially at youth with small groups and the long videos

Re: This is prolly really stupid

Croix — Sat, 19 Sep 2026 13:00:26 GMT

Dear New Member~

I'd like to give you a warm welcome here at the Forum and sympathise you have come across somone who thinks they 'know better'. You are the expert on you, and sound as if you have developed a range of coping mechanisms that work.

As they allow you to interact with others they are very important and not to be put to one side just because one person does not like or understand them.

As you have tried to make that leader understand without success I'd suggest you enlist someone in authority to help. As I expect you are under 25 I'd suggest you contact the Kids Help Line (1800 55 1800 ) and ask them to give you the name of a website that explains that different people use different methods with success and what you are doing is perfectly in order. Then give the link to the leader.

If that does not work then I'd suggest you contact the You Youth boss and complain you are missing out on important matters due to this lack of understanding.

I know it is very frustrating for you and hope that you can smooth out this difficulty both now and if it happens again in the future

If you would care to say how you got on I'd be most interested

Croix

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