topic Re: Feeling completely alone in Depression

Feeling completely alone

Dabullmeister — Fri, 05 Jun 2026 08:46:31 GMT

I have a some pretty rough years. I graduated uni in 2024 and couldn't get a job out of uni which left me isolated and made me feel worthless this sadly meant as well that I didn't keep in touch with a lot of the people I graduated with. Move to this year I started a PhD and I am really enjoying it, it is really rewarding and fulfilling only problem is that it is still very isolating. Most days I have no one to talk to and I have no one to do anything with. Like I'm in my 20s I feel I should be doing stuff but I just don't have anyone to do anything with. Doesn't help I live an hour out of the city as well. It just is becoming too much and I can feel it start to effect my ability to do work.

Re: Feeling completely alone

melodica — Fri, 05 Jun 2026 09:42:11 GMT

Congratulations on starting your PhD.

It is difficult to get into, and many never reach that point, so genuinely, well done.

Loving the work and feeling alone in it can sit side by side. You can find the research fulfilling and still go most of a day without a proper conversation.

Being an hour out of the city makes that harder, because seeing people stops being casual and becomes something you have to plan and persuade yourself to do.

It also sounds like this did not begin with the PhD. The stretch after graduating in 2024, with no job, drifting from the people you studied with, and feeling worthless, would knock anyone flat. Periods like that wear down confidence and the habit of reaching out, so when things improve, the isolation is already established.

You said it is starting to affect your work. That is the part not to ignore. When loneliness begins to erode the one thing you enjoy, it has gone further than you should have to manage alone.

Please talk to someone.

The Beyond Blue Support Service is free. The phone line is open 24 hours a day, and you speak with a trained counsellor.

Phone 1300 22 4636
Webchat available daily 3 pm to 12 am AEST via beyondblue.org.au

Putting this into words was a real step, and it was the right one.

Re: Feeling completely alone

Dabullmeister — Fri, 05 Jun 2026 11:10:55 GMT

Thank you for your message. I'll try to give them a ring tomorrow I just need to think about it a little more and get an understanding of how I'm feeling first. But I do really appreciate the message